There are guys who get it and there are guys who simply don't have a clue. I see it constantly and according to the multitude of ladies I talk to, the majority of the guys don't get it.
Game is not a condition reserved for the best looking guys, in fact many good looking guys are clueless how to deal with the ladies. Tall, short, fat, slim, rich or poor...has nothing to do with whether or not you've got game.
So I thought I'd start a thread to discuss this issue. In no particular order, here's some of my thoughts about having "game".
- Game is an inner aura that one either emanates or doesn't. It's the way you feel about yourself that subtly transmits information about your sexuality. The key is confidence. Without it, you've got nothing. And you will be hard pressed to attract quality ladies.
- Excellent perception through first impression. (The Disney employee motto.....simple and brilliant)
- Humor and lightheartedness. Don't try to be a stand-up comic but keep conservations light and humorous. This brings on a smile from the lady and yourself. This is very attractive trait.
- When you engage a lady in conversation, stay focused on her. Look into her eyes when she speaks to you and when you speak to her. Don't let your eyes wander and become distracted when another attractive lady is nearby.
- When you eyeball a lady that you are considering approaching, say in a bar or club, never assume she's available. Unless you're sure she's not with another guy, I recommend making sure she's free to talk before you barge ahead. "Hi, would I be stepping on anyone's toes if I offered to buy you a drink?"
- Don't try to impress. Never discuss your money or possessions. It makes you look like a tool.
- Subtlety is the best approach. Don't fawn all over her. A carefully executed compliment goes a long way, but keep it real and don't grovel.
- Stay calm. Don't put any undue expectations on the conversation. The goal is to make yourself attractive to her in many ways.
- Trust your instincts. If you pick up a negative vibe from her or think she's trying to lose you...tell her it was nice chatting and excuse yourself.
- Always be a gentleman. Don't talk negatively about someone even if she doesn't know who you're referring to. It sets a negative vibe. Never discuss politics. Never argue to make a point.
- If the energy between you two is right (and you will feel it), a gentle touch on her arm or shoulder when you're making a point can be extremely electric.
These are just a few of my thoughts. Feel free to chime in.
Game is not a condition reserved for the best looking guys, in fact many good looking guys are clueless how to deal with the ladies. Tall, short, fat, slim, rich or poor...has nothing to do with whether or not you've got game.
So I thought I'd start a thread to discuss this issue. In no particular order, here's some of my thoughts about having "game".
- Game is an inner aura that one either emanates or doesn't. It's the way you feel about yourself that subtly transmits information about your sexuality. The key is confidence. Without it, you've got nothing. And you will be hard pressed to attract quality ladies.
- Excellent perception through first impression. (The Disney employee motto.....simple and brilliant)
- Humor and lightheartedness. Don't try to be a stand-up comic but keep conservations light and humorous. This brings on a smile from the lady and yourself. This is very attractive trait.
- When you engage a lady in conversation, stay focused on her. Look into her eyes when she speaks to you and when you speak to her. Don't let your eyes wander and become distracted when another attractive lady is nearby.
- When you eyeball a lady that you are considering approaching, say in a bar or club, never assume she's available. Unless you're sure she's not with another guy, I recommend making sure she's free to talk before you barge ahead. "Hi, would I be stepping on anyone's toes if I offered to buy you a drink?"
- Don't try to impress. Never discuss your money or possessions. It makes you look like a tool.
- Subtlety is the best approach. Don't fawn all over her. A carefully executed compliment goes a long way, but keep it real and don't grovel.
- Stay calm. Don't put any undue expectations on the conversation. The goal is to make yourself attractive to her in many ways.
- Trust your instincts. If you pick up a negative vibe from her or think she's trying to lose you...tell her it was nice chatting and excuse yourself.
- Always be a gentleman. Don't talk negatively about someone even if she doesn't know who you're referring to. It sets a negative vibe. Never discuss politics. Never argue to make a point.
- If the energy between you two is right (and you will feel it), a gentle touch on her arm or shoulder when you're making a point can be extremely electric.
These are just a few of my thoughts. Feel free to chime in.