I should have clarified…
The heightened anxiety was mostly when I was a “green pea”monger..
Now, I’ll admit I do have a little thinking about going to an unknown place for the first time ( parking, being seen at a hotel etc)
Let me also add.. ( and please feel free to move to respective thread)
A number of years ago I had an appointment at a motel on OCR in Westbury.
Waiting by elevator to go up to room and exiting the adjacent staircase from lower level is a neighborhood friend!!.Thinking extremely fast, I ask him “Hey, what are you doing here?”
He responded, ( legitimately) he was coming from a conference in the hotels only meeting room.. When he asked me ( without suspicion), I informed him I had to drop off some papers for a client.. ( The motel’s corporate staff, if questioned)
Definitely plausible, in my line of work, being it was midweek and I was dressed in business attire..
Fortunately I thought quickly ..
The anxiety will always stem from being seen in a place I do not belong)