Des,
The boredom is definitely an issue. When can already predict the next thing, or expect whats next, what is the excitement? There is no such thing as "too nice" but there is such a thing as "too needy" or false or fake... sometimes "too nice" means that he is not pissing you off b/c he likes you, so he is not really being himself... so the Q becomes, is he being real? Is he sacrificing himself to stay on your good side... it takes alot of confidence to let someone else see who you really are, even if that means conflict in a relationship.
I bet, like all people, you like a little spice in a partner, a little power, a little excitement, a little machismo, or that undefined something that gets lost in time if not worked at... if he is worth it, work at it.. it can be regained, and recaptured... if its real, it can be re-ignited...
Finally, regarding lack of dreams.... for me.. this is a deal breaker.. just getting by, for me, is like dying a slow death... I believe we are here for a reason, and that we have to claw and struggle to find it, and fulfill it... its an active search... not an 8hr day and sit my ass on the couch to watch TV, just to get up and do it again, every day... just shoot me.. If my partner "just wanted to get by" I would quickly flash forward 25 yrs and see an unhappy person wake up one day and say "what the hell have I been wasting time for"... or, me waking up and saying, "how could I have wasted these years on someone who wants nothing more from life than to let it slip by, unnoticed, unremarkable..." sorry Desi, not for me... It shows an amazing lack of passion.. and lack of energy... it seems to me like you can do better...
Finally, (really finally).. your prior posts reveal you are smart, and savvy, and I can only imagine how sexy and charismatic, you will need someone who can challenge you, and guide you, and who you can guide.. and a partner who will nurture your dreams, as you do theirs, and who will be an active participant in your life, help you shape it, and will shape yours in return... you are about to engage in a new part of your life.. my suggestion is this; do not make any real emotional committments, until you have begun a new path, lets see where it leads, and maybe new avenues will open, and new people will become a part of your life that you never imagined... who knows where this crazy road goes? Are either of these guys able to take an unplanned unmapped bumpy journey with you? for years? will they be extra baggage? or will they haul thier own weight?
Now that was one run-on stream of consciousness post...
Miss your pix....
Tab