Arock, the risk of getting busted is never zero, but it's not all that high, either, and you can do things to improve your odds. Read the 'have you ever been busted?" thread. Where you run the most risk by far is the street. The cops are seriously looking there and seriously busting. Incalls to hotels have some risk, especially on Long Island, where the cops do these busts more often than elsewhere.
Incalls to a provider's apartment are low risk. AMPs get raided, but the clients are usually let go unless you're in the act or say too much. There's a thread in the newbie section that speaks to this. Read it carefully, especially Genius's advice; he knows as much about avoiding cop trouble as anyone.
The elements of a soliciting offense are the offer of a fee for sex. A decoy will try to unite the two in a conversation. Don't fall for it. Real providers avoid the conversation taking such a turn: "How much you got? What do you want to do?" is dangerous conversation. You'll recognize weird turns in the conversation and avoid them. Sorry, there's no substitute for experience.
Ask to see her tits or pussy, or for her to touch your dick. Cops won't do that.
Some guys get very paranoid and imagine the cops doing things they might do in a murder case. These are misdemeanors. You're not the Son of Sam. The danger of getting super paranoid is you'll miss genuine danger signs because you're jumping at shadows, and you'll spoil your fun.
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