I've recently become rather fascinated with the idea of being bound and spanked, but I'm sort of unclear on how to get the ball rolling with my significant other. I've already discussed my fantasy with him and he seems open to trying it, but I wonder if the experience can really be successful if neither partner has ever done anything like it before. I guess I'm afraid that since it's my fantasy and he'd only be a willing participant, that he's not going to make a very good dom, and that the whole thing is going to feel sort of silly and contrived. It seems to me that this type of scenario requires the dom to be very confident and commanding, and I'm not sure he's really prepared. Of course, I could be completely underestimating him here. I just don't want it all to blow up in my face and end up being a huge disappointment, since I get really turned on when I read stories about this type of thing.
Does anyone with experience in this realm have any suggestions for a first-timer?