How do you guys stop?

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JimmyJam77

#481
#481
Was watching Moonstruck and there was this line…

When Rose Castorini, Loretta's mother, discovers that her husband Cosmo is cheating on her, she asks her daughter's fiance Johnny why men cheat. Maybe it's because they fear death, he says.

Maybe we can stop if we overcome our own fear of death. Fucking and finding new pussy makes us feel and alive which is the opposite of death.

Something to think about …
 
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Haspel7

#482
#482
JimmyJam77 said:
Was watching Moonstruck and there was this line…

When Rose Castorini, Loretta's mother, discovers that her husband Cosmo is cheating on her, she asks her daughter's fiance Johnny why men cheat. Maybe it's because they fear death, he says.

Maybe we can stop if we overcome our own fear of death. Fucking and finding new pussy makes us feel and alive which is the opposite of death.

Something to think about …
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Great analogy
 
headsup

headsup

#483
#483
JimmyJam77 said:
Was watching Moonstruck and there was this line…

When Rose Castorini, Loretta's mother, discovers that her husband Cosmo is cheating on her, she asks her daughter's fiance Johnny why men cheat. Maybe it's because they fear death, he says.

Maybe we can stop if we overcome our own fear of death. Fucking and finding new pussy makes us feel and alive which is the opposite of death.

Something to think about …
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Fearing death or maybe it's fearing running out of time. We love beautiful girls. New ones, new thrills. How much time will there be?
 
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Nehoma

#486
#486
MarioBallo said:
I don't know what it is about SWs but the process of meeting them gets me going sometimes. I'm at a particular difficult time where the itch is too strong to resist.

I'm doing anything i can to sabotage the chance to meet any of the kind (or not so kind) souls that provide an oulet for the monger. From low balling, to inquiring about things they refuse to do, I use any excuse I can to prevent access to my happy place.

MPs have been easy to avoid due to current events, & past terrible experiences I don't want to revisit. When all else fails, I roll around the streets that were the source of great memories as well as the lowest moments in my journey.

With the will to compartmentalize varios parts of my life, its fucking crazy to think that an SO that loves to make my dick hard & drain my balls, is not enought to keep me grounded.

I could see a more attractive provider and someohow justify the detour from a satisfying partner, but when I am itching to meet gremlings that will drain me in a mechanical fasion, I understand that I will never truly be a one-woman man.

Stay strong brothers, you are not alone.
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Like most of us you need strange.
 
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MarioBallo

#488
#488
If you can't stop (mongering or NP4P), when would you say its time to move on from dating?

I'm talking less than a 5 years, not living toguether but "making memories".

Would good chemistry and genuinely caring for someone be a good enought excuse to continue living a double life?

I have only strayed a couple timed via P4P but contantly see myself daydreaming about NP4P. In short, I am constantly thinking of baging different women.
 
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Bricktop

#489
#489
MarioBallo said:
If you can't stop (mongering or NP4P), when would you say its time to move on from dating?

I'm talking less than a 5 years, not living toguether but "making memories".

Would good chemistry and genuinely caring for someone be a good enought excuse to continue living a double life?

I have only strayed a couple timed via P4P but contantly see myself daydreaming about NP4P. In short, I am constantly thinking of baging different women.
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I think NP4P cost more money in the long term
 
Excitable Boy

Excitable Boy

#491
#491
MarioBallo said:
If you can't stop (mongering or NP4P), when would you say its time to move on from dating?

I'm talking less than a 5 years, not living toguether but "making memories".

Would good chemistry and genuinely caring for someone be a good enought excuse to continue living a double life?

I have only strayed a couple timed via P4P but contantly see myself daydreaming about NP4P. In short, I am constantly thinking of baging different women.
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Not an excuse to stop mongering, rather your sexual needs are fulfilled in the right relationship.
 
iheartporno

iheartporno

#494
#494
I’ve always told myself “just one more and I’ll stop”. The thing is, I just love the thrill of the hunt. I get more excited cruising the local hot spots, finding a provider and setting up an appointment than the actual act (at times) and I just love pornography… a lot.

I know I can spend my time in more productive ways, my SO would kill me if I got caught (had some close calls) even my porn habits would land me in a lot of trouble but “getting off” is just too ingrained into my DNA. I’m just always horny. I’m sort of like that functioning alcoholic we’ve all worked with. I take care of my shit and I have a secret life.
 
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MarioBallo

#495
#495
iheartporno said:
I’ve always told myself “just one more and I’ll stop”. The thing is, I just love the thrill of the hunt. I get more excited cruising the local hot spots, finding a provider and setting up an appointment than the actual act (at times) and I just love pornography… a lot.

I know I can spend my time in more productive ways, my SO would kill me if I got caught (had some close calls) even my porn habits would land me in a lot of trouble but “getting off” is just too ingrained into my DNA. I’m just always horny. I’m sort of like that functioning alcoholic we’ve all worked with. I take care of my shit and I have a secret life.
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Good points
 
genius

genius

#496
#496
lightweight said:
Not too sure about that. Sometimes.
plus, I love the quote regarding p4p
You pay them to leave.
the other way, np4p can cause a lot of issues, stress, problems etc.
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Yup, a lot of issues, stress, problems etc. I once got a landline phone call on the weekend (luckily my SO was outside in the garden and out of hearing the conversation), from a drunken NP4P explaining how she missed me and could I come over to see her.
From the getgo it was supposed to be just a fun thing for both of us.

The relationship was ended.

When I was single again (my choice and not related to my exploits) the NP4P situations almost always ended badly when it turned into them wanting more than I was willing to give.

P4P is sooo much easier.
 
lightweight

lightweight

Moderator
#497
#497
genius said:
Yup, a lot of issues, stress, problems etc. I once got a landline phone call on the weekend (luckily my SO was outside in the garden and out of hearing the conversation), from a drunken NP4P explaining how she missed me and could I come over to see her.
From the getgo it was supposed to be just a fun thing for both of us.

The relationship was ended.

When I was single again (my choice and not related to my exploits) the NP4P situations almost always ended badly when it turned into them wanting more than I was willing to give.

P4P is sooo much easier.
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I hear you. I can add a lot to this but I will save it for another time. I wasn’t so lucky like you, my wife wasn’t in the garden.
 
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Flintfred

#499
#499
iheartporno said:
Thinking about this topic again…

For me, it’s multi-faceted. I grew up in a house where anything sexual was shamed but at the same time sexual explicit movies, like Fatal Attraction etc, were ok for me to watch as a kid. So I definitely got mixed up. Exposed and told it was shameful. Hell, when my mom found my Club Magazine stash, she had throw them out in front of my siblings. Pretty damn embarrassing as far as I remember. So, I learned to be very secretive. I even can’t talk about sex with people unless it faceless, nameless people online.

With that, becoming obsessed with pornography, to me makes sense. Then eventually P4P. It’s my escape, my safe place. I know the risks attached especially with P4P. But I still do it. The other part of me just wants me to accept who I am. I LOVE it all despite everything.
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We must have had similar childhoods….
 
iheartporno

iheartporno

#500
#500
Flintfred said:
We must have had similar childhoods….
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Damn! Sorry. Makes you think, nature versus nurture! I’m always horny so I tend to think nature. But when you’re 7 years old and your mom wants you to watch Porky’s, Porky’s II and Porky’s Revenge because they are funny then shames you for liking a girl, then I think nurture.
I definitely have an unhealthy relationship with sex but I’m a big boy and continue to make my choices.
 
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