my small contribution to this thread...
No offense to anyone, but you can believe what you will. I have had the good fortune of having developed honest relationships with a few lovers in my life. In a few cases I would ask them to show me how to truly please them. The reaction typically was a look of surprise, then one of ‘great I could get into this.’ I’ll tell you this, when a woman has a big “O” it is pretty obvious. However, just like men, the intensity of an “O” can vary depending on a woman’s level of arousal. Just like a healthy guy can shoot like a geyser in one instance, and then dribble the next, the intensity of a woman’s “O” can vary.
Here is the kicker; if a woman is relaxed with you and she is in tune with her body she can definitely control the intensity of the “O”. I had one lover whose “Os” were so intense that she didn’t want to have them too often because she would see stars and get a headache afterwards- but I loved it. In this lover’s case, the way she got off via oral was drastically different from when induced by stimulation by fingers- the latter was more intense. In this case, during the course of our relationship she only got-off with only penis stimulation once, our relationship lasted a year and the half. Unfortunately, she was becoming more comfortable with her body and our relationship towards the end of our relationship, but I had to break it off. And the sex was really getting better towards the end as well but I digress. In another case, during a one-night stand with a married woman (she is a swinger), two-thirds of the bed was soaking wet due to the level of her arousal. During intercourse I could not really tell she was “Oing”. All the signs were different from anything I had ever experienced with the exception of the “leaky faucet syndrome”- that is when a woman is gushing or squirting (I bet the same guys who said you can’t tell when a woman O’s will also say there is no such thing as female ejaculation). But then again I have experienced gushers where the woman never “O’d”. She stated her “Os” were more than she could count, and when hubby came home he was shocked at how wet the bed got. According to her, he apparently was so turned on by this he balled her like a maniac in the soaking bed- to each his own.
The point is, if you can get in tune with a woman’s body you sometimes can tell. Not all the time, but definitely a good number of times. Wetness is definitely a key indicator of level of arousal. Some women twitch uncontrollably, others shiver, for some their vagina becomes a vice grip, and for others they become flush afterwards. But you can tell, and if you can’t it is okay. Just have fun and make the most of the opportunities.
Regards
Pop