Don't judge yourself, don't let someone judge you. Have fun, you are who you are. If you're over 35, the topic of ex's may come up and just say what you have to say, better to find out if she has hangups in the beginning. Enjoy either way.
So Gavy, how did the date go?
I over analyse. I just wasn't on. She had a very bad sinus infection and still went out. That was a decent sign. The dughter issue came up. She mentioned she dated a guy with a child and it kind of came up. She was initially taken aback, but that wasn't the issue.
I was so nervous and uncomfortable that the flow wasn't there. So, from 11:00 PM to 2:00 AM we hung out. And there just wasn't this
flow. And perhaps she was sick. But I started to go into the "think way too much" and "psyche myself out" modes.
And I dropped her off in front of her house around 2:00 and she kind of delayed. And she hemmed and hawed and we started kissing, but it wasn't terrible. And she finally went inside.
I hit the Whitestone Bridge around 2:20 AM and was tempted to go check in on Eddy at Amor or Lily (nee "forc") from one of the hardcore fichas. I was on the bridge and this is the interaction of txts that went on between the girl and I:
Girl:
Im sry if ur dissapointed. I had a god time. Ty!
Me:
I just want you to be tndm be happy. You can definitely kiss! (
Writer note: this is an inside joke that we have)
I am not disappointed. I think you are great.
Girl:
I am happy. Goodnite ---
Writer comment: not the response I was looking for
Oh, fuck, should I fucking write everything out? You guys fucking care and want to read into this fucking insane craziness in my head!?!? Yeah, the txts go on for two more exchanges. I sent her a "feeling better?" txt an hour ago and no response. Fuck me.
I tried, guys. I just am not there yet.
And it is fucking painful.
I am in a better place than where I was last year, however.
I have wasted a lot of years ignoring girls like her, thinking I wasn't good enough for girls like her. I get a girl like her to agree to go out with me and I fucking fall flat on my face.
Hoisted by my own petard if you will. Let's not place any blame on my new friend. I was awkward, I was uncomfortable.
I am in a better place, but the Newsroom should be filled with self loathing posts for the next little while...
Gavy