Since the topic of grindage during dances seems to come up a lot here, I thought I just might give it its own darn thread. I was reading a comment on another thread somewhere (I am way too lazy at this hour to go searching for it) about how some dancer was grinding so hard that it was actually painful and that they just wanted the dance to be over asap. I can only assume that the dancer didn't realize that men's penises and testicles are sensitive organs, and that simply grinding as hard as possibly does not make for a satisfying experience. I believe there's an actual technique behind the whole thing and I would like to hear everyone's comments. I don't normally incorporate much grindage into my dances because I never really had to (when I started working at my club it was a big no-no, but as of late it's become commonplace.) so I was wondering how this is properly executed.
The Daily "Grind"
- Thread starter Danielle
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I don't know that I've really had the opportunity to develop one. Although centering your ass on the lap is important, as well as applying the right pressure. I've watched some girls actually bounce up and down which to me looks really painful for the guy (what's that all about!?) it's also the guy's responsibility to make sure HE'S postioned correctly, although please don't stick your hand down your pants in the middle of the dance, I hate that!
Well if she's using your lap as a trampoline you might as well just don a cup. Or tell her to stop the dance. I don't think there's any shame in walking away from a situation where the boys are in danger.
Can't you guys shift yourselves into correct dancing position before we sit down somewhere when noone's looking instead of sticking your hand down your pants when I'm trying to be sexy? Sticking your hands down your pants should be reserved for small children who have to go potty real bad and scenes in porno movies. I just don't want to see that.
Can't you guys shift yourselves into correct dancing position before we sit down somewhere when noone's looking instead of sticking your hand down your pants when I'm trying to be sexy? Sticking your hands down your pants should be reserved for small children who have to go potty real bad and scenes in porno movies. I just don't want to see that.
FWIW, IMO I get absolutely nothing from the "daily grind". If I am at a club with friends, I find myself spending more buying dances for friends than for myself.*
From reading jl's journal......maybe I am looking for the non-sex GFE as well.......
I guess the next thing would be to ask jl for restaurant recommendations for when I start taking strippers out to dinner.
*HH always complains that I go to Asscon, but don't partake of dances.....
From reading jl's journal......maybe I am looking for the non-sex GFE as well.......
I guess the next thing would be to ask jl for restaurant recommendations for when I start taking strippers out to dinner.
*HH always complains that I go to Asscon, but don't partake of dances.....
Ok, then YOU can stick your hand down my pants, fine with me.
If a guy starts out soft, sometimes it ends up in an awkward position once erect. He can't always adjust perfectly beforehand.
Sometimes the girl will notice (if she knows what she's doing) and will ask if the guy wants to re-adjust. He can do this below or over his pants. (Whether she watches him do this is up to the girl.)
What's your suggestion?
If a guy starts out soft, sometimes it ends up in an awkward position once erect. He can't always adjust perfectly beforehand.
Sometimes the girl will notice (if she knows what she's doing) and will ask if the guy wants to re-adjust. He can do this below or over his pants. (Whether she watches him do this is up to the girl.)
What's your suggestion?
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Daneille,
I am not known for being tactile. I have told dancers to go away and learn to dance(surprised that I was not kick out). I usually like rough grinding. I prefer to see your face while you wrap your legs around me. It becomes a little more personally. If I don't give a crap about the dancer, I tell her to turn around and I will become a bronco. Very few dancers have made me return to them. The only dancers that made me return are the ones that gave extras and the others that I see I just prefer to talk to who I became friends with. It depends on how I am treated. Certain clubs are known fore certain things and it will depend on my mood that day. When I usued to go to X-dreams, I was not interested in making a "mental" connection with the dancer. It was pull down your pant, jerk me off, bye. On the other side, I went to Tender Trap, spend 200 bucks for the VIP room and told the dancer you could sit next to me and talk because I could not see her in that way. Also, I saw a dancer in my gym today. She is still the same, very flighty(sp?) and thinks she knows it all, but has a good heart. In my opinion, it depends.
I am not known for being tactile. I have told dancers to go away and learn to dance(surprised that I was not kick out). I usually like rough grinding. I prefer to see your face while you wrap your legs around me. It becomes a little more personally. If I don't give a crap about the dancer, I tell her to turn around and I will become a bronco. Very few dancers have made me return to them. The only dancers that made me return are the ones that gave extras and the others that I see I just prefer to talk to who I became friends with. It depends on how I am treated. Certain clubs are known fore certain things and it will depend on my mood that day. When I usued to go to X-dreams, I was not interested in making a "mental" connection with the dancer. It was pull down your pant, jerk me off, bye. On the other side, I went to Tender Trap, spend 200 bucks for the VIP room and told the dancer you could sit next to me and talk because I could not see her in that way. Also, I saw a dancer in my gym today. She is still the same, very flighty(sp?) and thinks she knows it all, but has a good heart. In my opinion, it depends.