How does one define cheating?
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A lot of the current American phylosophy oh relationships and marriage revolves around the woman being a princess and the man being a glorified financial provider or protector.
Men have to make the 1st move and pick whatever slack and baggage come with their "princess" and put in a pedestal.
Call me an asshole but seeing escorts or fwb seems far less complicated.
Relationships take up most of your free time and you get diminishing returns the more you get involved.
Unless you really want that sort of life for yourself it just aint worth it.
Men have to make the 1st move and pick whatever slack and baggage come with their "princess" and put in a pedestal.
Call me an asshole but seeing escorts or fwb seems far less complicated.
Relationships take up most of your free time and you get diminishing returns the more you get involved.
Unless you really want that sort of life for yourself it just aint worth it.
I agree to soe pont. If the man choses the right woman he puts on that pedestal things can work. I married y wife when she was 19 I was 30. She was placed on a small pedestal at first as the yers went on that pedestal got higher we are very happy she was open to suggestions on how to keep spice in the bedroom and we of course even had another woman join in a few times. I of course had a wandering eye but never acted on it. The only reason I go else where is due to her medical condition and of course as stated she knows but does not want to know when ,where, and who....
I get the point. And I partially agree. If you’re in a relationship where you’re both doing your thing. And you’re sticking together for either the kids or financials. It’s really not cheating.
And if you’re significant other became disabled. Broken back, paralyzed for life level of disability. Where you can never have sex again. You need your need met. It’s not like she can hop in the car and find you. What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her. It’s not cheating.
On the other hand, if you’re significant other was slowly recovering from a devastating accident or disease, and you can’t hold out and keep your cock in your pant while she recovers. That’s cheating…….
I know I’m a scumbag . I know I’m a cheater. There’s absolutely no doubt in my mind. And I’m fine with it. I really do try to play it safe. So my guilt is minimal.
And if you’re significant other became disabled. Broken back, paralyzed for life level of disability. Where you can never have sex again. You need your need met. It’s not like she can hop in the car and find you. What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her. It’s not cheating.
On the other hand, if you’re significant other was slowly recovering from a devastating accident or disease, and you can’t hold out and keep your cock in your pant while she recovers. That’s cheating…….
I know I’m a scumbag . I know I’m a cheater. There’s absolutely no doubt in my mind. And I’m fine with it. I really do try to play it safe. So my guilt is minimal.
There are two kinds of cheating. Emotional and Physical. In the end if you are doing either, its cheating no matter the circumstances. If your not being open with your SO on which void you are filling without them its cheating. We can sugarcoat it all day long. I also think each sex tends to cheat for different reasons. Men usually tend to cheat for physical reasons. Whether its lack of sex or lack of interest. Woman tend to cheat more when they are looking to fill that emotional void they are missing in their relationship.
I had a SO that I lived with for 7 years. Although we did do the swinging scene (this was the early 80's) her only rule was no affairs as that was cheating. Seeing a prostitute was ok with her as long as I used a condom and as long as it didn't reduce my nightly service for her. She felt that wasn't cheating; she put in in the same category as getting a legit massage i.e., nothing personal — just something that I paid for and felt good. It was like going out to a restaurant instead of having a cooked meal (both she and I alternated cooking) at home.
God, I miss her!
God, I miss her!
Their culture usually treats women as property as opposed to human beings.
I am not saying these women are free from all the negative qualities that tend to make life impossible for a married man, but at the very least these harem husbands can tell them to fuck off when they get out of line.
And no, I am not necessarily looking for a 1950s type of marriage with a doormat of a wife. I just don't like how controlling women tend to become in the long run.
I am also just not ready to settle down with one partner as there at least dozens of women I would fuck every single day if given the chance.
I am not saying these women are free from all the negative qualities that tend to make life impossible for a married man, but at the very least these harem husbands can tell them to fuck off when they get out of line.
And no, I am not necessarily looking for a 1950s type of marriage with a doormat of a wife. I just don't like how controlling women tend to become in the long run.
I am also just not ready to settle down with one partner as there at least dozens of women I would fuck every single day if given the chance.