@keepitcovered thanks for starting this post. I'm struggling with some of the same feelings and was wondering if there was a thread to talk about it. In my 20's and 30's I was completely addicted, and the business was much different. There were pages of escort services in the phone book and you just called and a girl came to your home, and you paid by credit card. FS, everything covered, flat price, no upsell or tip. I got myself into a lot of credit card debt. I also occasionally went to Brothels in NYC which were advertised in the backpages of the Village Voice, which is where I believe the name of the infamous website originated. In a story much like the one above by
@lightweight , I once went in with a bad feeling and did it anyway, and it was a sting, and I spent a night in jail. No one knows about that except myself. Anyway, that didn't stop me. My parents found out about my debt, and were kind/stupid enough to bail me out of that. That didn't stop me. Finally, I made a choice to get engaged and married, and somehow I was able to stop. However, over the years, there would be struggles. I guess its like any addiction, you are never really cured. After 18 years of no mongering, last October I finally gave in. I started by limiting myself to R&T situations and telling myself I'm not really cheating if my dick isn't going inside of any mouth, pussy or ass. But that's just fooling myself, and of course it was only a matter of time before I gave in and went for full service. (See my reviews). Now I'm struggling everyday, because, I really like it, but it makes me feel very guilty, and I'm spending way too much money. I keep trying to make a plan by saying, ok, I won't do anything again for at least X amount of time, but then I fail. I also go back and forth about guilt and the need to enjoy life. Its also really frustrating when I sometimes have problems maintaining with a provider, which I believe is totally in my head because of my mixed feelings. Likewise, when I have problems performing with my SO, I'm so afraid she'll find out other things are going on. I too want to stay married, my only problem with marriage is the concept of monogamy. Hell, if I thought for a second that my SO would be into fucking another guy, I'd push for the open marriage thing, but I know that's never going to happen.
I guess misery loves company, so I thank you for giving me a spot to kind of vent this as well, and maybe just by sharing we can feel a little better knowing that many others go through the same things. And so that's my group therapy contribution.