my god, you are so theatrical! "turned her life upside down" since when? "innocent girlfriend" where? "glorious detail" my foot.
you are telling a histrionic tale - and then telling me what i need to do in that tale. it's a bit of a conversation killer. stultifies honest dialogue.
you are telling a histrionic tale - and then telling me what i need to do in that tale. it's a bit of a conversation killer. stultifies honest dialogue.
Is she still with this man?
I am not telling you what you need to do. I am telling you what I think you did do. I based it upon what you wrote.
You said: "when i got disgusted with the slimy situation and contacted the woman to inform her that her shithead bf was fucking around with me...."
Why were you disgusted? You seem to imply later it was his actions that were responsible. Was that the case?
Would you have contacted her if you hadn't been disgusted with the situation?
Am I correct that that you were angry at him at the time you decided to speak to her about his affair with you?
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Searching for motives behind other people's actions was part and parcel of what I did for a living for many years. I am sorry if my long term experience in that area caused me to have questions here about your own. I am more than willing to drop it, but I would suggest[here is where I am saying what you ought to do ] that at some point some introspection, perhaps, might be a good thing on your part.
I would ask that you ask yourself, "Why?". If you find that in any way you were angry at him? If you wouldn't have told her had you not been angry with him? If you would have continued the affair and not been disgusted had it not been for being angry with him? If all were going well with him would you not have contacted his girl-friend?
If the answers to any of these questions is yes you need to re-think your motivation and thus your intent; then ask yourself if you used her to hurt him, just as he used your sister to hurt you?
You know I wish you well.
Most respectfully...