Great idea to start this thread. My problem with the other is everyone bragging they did this or that with a girl and they they state an amount of damage. But seldom say how much time they stayed with her. This leaves the reader to think it’s just another p4p transaction like the ones conjured up on XX a few years ago...
I agree - I like this idea. I'm uncomfortable with using the actual profile names in the other thread for all the obvious reasons, but to each their own. A while back, a couple of us ID'd girls via their initials and/or last 4 digits of phone number, so - if you were already legitimately in contact with them - you could exchange info with lower risk from lurkers or crazies.
Anyway, as for real sugar babies, I’d written about some a few years back in the other thread, although I think the way I discussed them is now considered off-topic. The long-term ones have either been “sugar-free”, where they are just looking for an older, successful, no-headache, mentor type (which is what I look for); and a few that have modest ongoing asks, sometimes not cash-specific.
In the 1st group, things are often semi-regular at first, but then someone gets feelings… or a BF… or moves… or gets a busier job/schedule… etc. But a few boomerang back. For example, my 19yo-stuck-on-campus girl (who’s now almost 24) and I see each other a few times a year in spurts, when she’s between BF’s or has a lighter course load (she’s in grad school now). Same with the Dancer that I wrote about as well. In both cases, I pick up the tab for whatever we’re doing – dinner, drinks, show, etc. – and then head to their place. I think I’ve noted before that this kind of sugar-free isn’t always cheaper, since a nice night out can run $300+ even if you don’t get a hotel, but I'll get free booty calls too, so I play the averages.
In the 2nd group, I’ll sometimes do a monthly, but it’s pretty rare. The cognitive dissonance and pride is strong among the types of girls I go for… though, on a side note, it’s ironic how many 10th-wave-intersectionalist-pussy-hat-whatever feminist-types seem more than ok hounding money from the patriarchy... like their pussy is Robin Hood or something. Anyway, I’m more likely to help a girl get to a specific goal or tide her over, than just “pay” like a part-time job. Jewelry Designer, one of my 1st SA girls, was trying to grow her business beyond the couple of stores that carried her, but that was costing her. She was very uncomfortable asking for anything and I just got in the habit of taking her cable or cell bill from the kitchen table on my way out; so it was maybe $200-400/month depending on particulars. I gave Art Director about $1k/month, which was her rent shortfall between jobs. And, like girls in the 1st group, I’d pay for dinner, drinks, etc.
A big challenge in these longer-term relationships is maintaining anonymity. That’s easy for only a date or 2, but not for months or years. The girls know the broad strokes of what I do and my background, but I’ve always put my privacy first, which has ultimately put off a lot of girls after a few meetups. And it’s also a massive pain in the ass when you have to create Uber, seamless, opentable, stubhub, booking.com, etc. accounts for the “other you”.
At this point, I’m pretty sure that guy has his own credit report and someone is trying to get him to register to vote…