First off, I took slinky's advice and have stopped humoring this chick. Bunyon also just mentioned that this girl seems like a "user". I'm done with her, no matter how desperate I am right now.
OK, I go to dinner with a few friends last night. Two of my boys. One of my boys brought a friend, a decent guy, but a tad uncouth. One time I hung out with him and my boy he was actively passing gas at a party at this chicks house. The next few times we hung out, this guy cries poverty and my boy and I cover his tab.
Last night, I showed up a little late, the three of them are sitting down. This friend of a friend leans over and says, "I am gonna be farting all night". Now, I am definitely not prude, but I loathe, despise, hate, sdetest all forms of bathroom humor, language, etc. Is it a hang up? Yeah. And I shower at least 3 times a day too. But still this guy in his 30's should have:
1. Manners
2. Money
3. Couth
And he doesn't. So, I know he is banging a married chick that he works with. And he is suffering because of it. My boy has told me the stories. So after his coment about breaking wind all night, I say, "So, you're banging a married chick?"
AND he and my friend get all offended, like I broke some guy code.
So, I ask him why is she sleeping with you and his response is that "the guy is an asshole". I ask him if he ever met said 'guy' and he responds "no". So then I ask his how does he know the guy is an asshole. And he says because "she told [him] stories". I then tell him things like, "She is fucking you behind his back and you trust her stories?" And he and my friend are getting really fucking pissed. (I am sorry, but when you go to dinner at a decent restaurant, leave your bathroom humor at home if you don't want to incur my wrath).
I then went on to tell him about this married girl I was banging seven years ago. How it was all promises of a future, how I was going to take her away from all of her pain. She finally divorced him and "dropped me". I was left shaking my head. I explianed to him all of the "big bad husband" stories I heard from this chick. All the "mental abuse" she went through. I hated this guy.
Well, I did stay in contact with this girl from time to time. In the "war stories" thread, I discussed hanging with her back in January at Cavo. And it wasn't until 3 or 4 years later that I realized the problem was her, not him. Let's look at his profile:
- Owns a house in Douglaston and rental properties in Whitestone
- Owns a home upstate
- Retired at 3/4 pay at the age of 35 years old
- Bodybuilder
- Great father
but
- he was noncommunicative
- he wasn't well read
- he would help strangers fix their cars (they lived near the LIE)
- he took care of his invalid mother
Sounds like a decent enough guy. And I heard all these horror stories about him. It turns out that she was twice and married once during the last six years of her life after the divorce. And he has a very nice, quiet Italian girl as a girlfriend right now. So, who had the horror stories? Her or him?
I explained this story to the guy that last night. I think he got my point. Then, I ended the conversation by saying that you must "remember that women are duplicitous". He didn't know what the word "duplicitous" meant.
Gavy