Get on an ssri antidepressant. Kills any desire and any erections. At least for me. It has worked wonders for my SO - no sex for years...
Interesting approach and thank you.
During this time, I also have used certain herbs that offer more circulation to the brain and periphery and stayed away from strong tonics like ginseng and the heavier foods that seem to feed the sex drive.
By no means does any of it kill the sex drive, knowing full-well, I could stone-cold kill it with extreme substances. But, rather, it just makes one more cerebral and able to enjoy life as a free-being not always gunned-in-focused on sex.
It just relaxes and sends circulation all over the body and really great blood-flow. And even a good cup of Starbuck's Latte with a nice strong calcium-magnesium pill is enough to relax and take the edge off, along with some physical exercise or deep breathing exercises.
And enjoying some uplifting reading of a harmonious nature like bible,(bible has some really great stories that are fun and surreal like David's strategy on defeating Goliath and how he learned to rule a nation by becoming a sharp shooter with a sling, killing off wild bear and lions when he was a boy shepherd protecting his flock) tao-te-ching (always love my Asians)
I also go for extremely hot baths followed by a cold shower and then just sit nicely or lie down on a couch or bed and just feel my body energy, rhythm and breath and just focus on my own self-worth and happiness.
Listened to and sent to friends Bobby McFerrin's "Don't Worry Be Happy" the official video. Even sent this to some of my providers that know me well and are flexible enough to move on to greater happiness until the work comes their way again.
Had a great time watching Looney Toons, Bugs Bunny, (very zen-like) Wile E. Coyote, (super genius) Elmer J. Fudd, (the ultimate man of means, gross materialist and probably a monger in real life) and THE ROADRUNNER. (the ultimate tao master, never planning but always present and in the perfect place at the perfect time avoiding disaster under disastrous situations) Daffy Duck (someone I try to avoid being) And I venture into other comedic entertainment.
I once heard of a man with terminal cancer that locked himself in a hotel room loaded with comedy videos and laughed his ass off so much so, the cancer receded. (so I am told)
Took my SO to the top of a high building and searched for the moon on a cloudy night and told her I love her and thanked her for marrying me and staying together and raising fine independent children that I am extremely proud of. (still no sex but possibly more fulfilling emotionally)
Listened to Rupert Spira and Eckhart Tolle giving their spiritual message during the crisis.
I do some children teaching on the side. Try to counsel the young, wild, restless types, seeing myself in them and enjoying the brilliant scholarly young mind who revels in knowledge.
Working on myself so that when this crisis relents, I find myself well-balanced and able to enjoy sex on yet another more fulfilling level.
Ancient religious texts in China, India and other cultures honored conscious sex as a pathway to enlightenment. There are temples in India where elaborate, multitudinous statues are hand-carved displaying every possible sex act and orgy as a worship and celebration of the merging of Shiva/Shakti.
Use this precious time. It is not junk time to be abhorred. It is just an unavoidable wake-up call to help us expand our horizons.
You are more important than the sex act. The sex act is a fun activity. But you are the context, the space over which it occurs. Make that space beautiful.