Look at it this way. When guys start out, they don't intend to create a separate life, with black ops telephones, fake names, false identities, sugar babies, etc. They just want to add a little spice to their lives by getting laid, and they'd like to do so in a cost-effective manner.
Then they come here, and the experienced teach the newbies all of the ins and outs, how not to get caught, how to deal with your wife, how to evade police, etc. And so the newbie gets access to information that lets him behave in a way that he never would have risked previously, and the "line" that he won't cross gets moved. And once it starts moving it keeps moving. Eventually he will graduate to the BBBJ, or BBFS or BBG or BDSM or TSs or whatever, as he gets in touch with what he really wants because in a place like this he can be honest with himself and others about his sexual proclivities.
And again, this might be a positive for many guys. It might make them feel less "trapped" in their real lives and it might keep them more balanced. But you just need to step back every now and then, see where you are, see if it is where you want to be and adjust if necessary. If you don't, you keep moving the line, but you aren't really aware of it, until sometimes it is too late.