I'd argue that dominance is the gift. It takes a lot of energy, work, discipline for a dom to control a complex sub. I also fully agree w/ Thorn that "trust issues" exist on both sides, hence why long-term D/s relationships are so rare. To some extent, I also believe those that are 'wired' this way are so due to good and bad life experiences. Most doms have had obstacles to overcome in life that make them self-disciplined, focused, to some degree, control freaks/perfectionists, yet those are the traits a wayward or untamed sub. needs. Just my take. Many different facets/personalities within this realm.
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Interesting enough, I have found more options among civilians (some kind of closeted subs) just by chatting online than among pros in New York.
The game could be thrilling, bit sincerely I have no patience to become a true dom. I have helped my ATF develop her sub side with me and I love it, but this is only integrated within a normal provider session.
I have met at least met two or three civilians over the years, after months of conversation on-line. I had had a few fantasy domination sessions on-line with them. So when one would happen to be in New York, we would meet. It's not for me. I lack the discipline and the time.
Somewhat I find it easier being a sub, in the sense that you follow the lead. You don't need to think of dungeon-like environments, wouldn't care about working with the ropes, etc. I assume planning the domination strategy from a psychological point of view and executing it could be entertaining. I just feels the routine setting in and anything routine horrifies me.
Am I making sense?
The game could be thrilling, bit sincerely I have no patience to become a true dom. I have helped my ATF develop her sub side with me and I love it, but this is only integrated within a normal provider session.
I have met at least met two or three civilians over the years, after months of conversation on-line. I had had a few fantasy domination sessions on-line with them. So when one would happen to be in New York, we would meet. It's not for me. I lack the discipline and the time.
Somewhat I find it easier being a sub, in the sense that you follow the lead. You don't need to think of dungeon-like environments, wouldn't care about working with the ropes, etc. I assume planning the domination strategy from a psychological point of view and executing it could be entertaining. I just feels the routine setting in and anything routine horrifies me.
Am I making sense?
Interesting enough, I have found more options among civilians (some kind of closeted subs) just by chatting online than among pros in New York.
The game could be thrilling, bit sincerely I have no patience to become a true dom. I have helped my ATF develop her sub side with me and I love it, but this is only integrated within a normal provider session.
I have met at least met two or three civilians over the years, after months of conversation on-line. I had had a few fantasy domination sessions on-line with them. So when one would happen to be in New York, we would meet. It's not for me. I lack the discipline and the time.
Somewhat I find it easier being a sub, in the sense that you follow the lead. You don't need to think of dungeon-like environments, wouldn't care about working with the ropes, etc. I assume planning the domination strategy from a psychological point of view and executing it could be entertaining. I just feels the routine setting in and anything routine horrifies me.
Am I making sense?
The game could be thrilling, bit sincerely I have no patience to become a true dom. I have helped my ATF develop her sub side with me and I love it, but this is only integrated within a normal provider session.
I have met at least met two or three civilians over the years, after months of conversation on-line. I had had a few fantasy domination sessions on-line with them. So when one would happen to be in New York, we would meet. It's not for me. I lack the discipline and the time.
Somewhat I find it easier being a sub, in the sense that you follow the lead. You don't need to think of dungeon-like environments, wouldn't care about working with the ropes, etc. I assume planning the domination strategy from a psychological point of view and executing it could be entertaining. I just feels the routine setting in and anything routine horrifies me.
Am I making sense?
Looking for a sub to meet tomorrow (thursday)
Anyone know of any available?
Anyone know of any available?