honesty

[fortydog]

I think we are "in on it" We deceive ourselves to protect our ego's

Very much true.

 

[stevefor2005]

The perceived reason to lie is that acting like they are cumming would make the client cum sooner. They are bouncing around like crazed lunatics completely unable to stop, (yeah right), so when you try to put the breaks on because you dont want to pop yet it's impossible. A technique often used while in CG.

Ah, I get it, intellectually, anyway. Thanks for the illumination.
As a practical matter, I tend to p4p with women who aren't trying to cheat me that way.
In np4p situations, I'm usually so turned on that no such technique would be required to get me to come, especially if there's no rubber involved. (Usually, it's all I can do to hold back - the multiplication table gets a good workout here).

 

[justme]

I am fuckin' sick of being told I am the best lover, the nicest guy, have the best DATY skillz they have ever experienced, and am hung like a porn star. etc. Bullshit. As I see it, I'm a grumpy asshole with a slightly larger than avg dick that puts an annoying emphasis on making sure my partner cums. Real truth is likely in between the two.

Smart people (men and women) know how to emphasize your better qualities when you need an ego boost, gracefully point out your weaknesses when you're looking to improve, and keep their mouth shut when the truth won't help the situation and will only create problems.

There are not many smart people, bu you should surround yourself with as many as possible.

 

[Axe]

In one case, even years into a relationship I didn't get honest answers. I hate that.

I actually have better luck with providers in that area. I tell 'em up front I hate flattery, and oftentimes that's that. Not always, but often enough.

Anyone else feel that way?

The only thing I feel is that if you pay a hooker to say you made her cum, then that's what she'll tell you. If you pay her to tell you you dont like flattery, then that's what she'll avoid. Otherwise, she's a bad businesswoman.

 

[Axe]

If you pay her to tell you you dont like flattery, then that's what she'll avoid.

Wtf!?!

Man, I gotta cut back on the pre-dinner Martinis.

 

[puffin]

People don't generally lie out of malice, more often they lie to avoid confrontation. If people had thicker skins, and parents taught their children about diplomacy, then the truth would be out there more often, though you'd need to look for it.

Q: "Honey, did you cum?"
A: "You were terrific" (meaning no)