to casper:
Casper, these are tough questions. I'll be happy to respond "off the cuff," but keep in mind that my considered answers might be very different.
Without a doubt, I'm much better off having read the responses that were posted here. I sincerely thank everyone who posted. Parenthetically, it was a cathartic experience just to write it all down and post it all, even if no one had responded. But a lot of people have responded. It's gratifying that this is now the 2nd most viewed and replied-to thread on the "general" part of UG, and may soon overtake the #1 "jokes" thread, even though this thread has only been up since May 20th.
Not too much. I still do trips and presentations and speeches at conferences. I still do telephone calls and emails and proposals. Business is still growing at a good healthy rate. We're still hiring. No deadlines have been missed. We're hitting all of our "numbers." I think I've done a reasonably good job of separating my personal life from my business activities.
Just about all the time. This still hurts a lot.
A little bit, although "resentment" may be too strong a word. I've come to think that I probably don't know who the real Lisa really is very much at all. I suspect she was hiding a lot for me. I doubt I'll ever know the real reasons for that, but I'm guessing she believes she has good reasons to hide things about her life from others. I probably feel sad for her about this, more than I "resent" her about this.
Absoluely not. As much as it hurts now, I had a ball this last year. I experienced some things in a way I haven't ever before, and I learned more about me and my feelings that I would never have learned before. I would never want to give that up, even if it meant avoiding the pain.
I don't know how to answer this. Too much is in flux right now. Four weeks ago I would have said I'd probably be in the midst of starting a 2nd family in five years. Now, that seems quite unlikely. One thing I do know: a year ago it would have been unthinkable to me to imagine I would drastically change my life. Now, I know I have been thinking seriously about making major life-changing decisions. I am much less complacent about continuing my life on an unsatisfactory basis. I don't know if marriage counseling will be able to change my life and make it better, but I suspect I will attempt that route. If it works, great, and my life will have been improved. If it doesn't work, than I think some other changes will be needed.
Casper, these are tough questions. I'll be happy to respond "off the cuff," but keep in mind that my considered answers might be very different.
Without a doubt, I'm much better off having read the responses that were posted here. I sincerely thank everyone who posted. Parenthetically, it was a cathartic experience just to write it all down and post it all, even if no one had responded. But a lot of people have responded. It's gratifying that this is now the 2nd most viewed and replied-to thread on the "general" part of UG, and may soon overtake the #1 "jokes" thread, even though this thread has only been up since May 20th.
Not too much. I still do trips and presentations and speeches at conferences. I still do telephone calls and emails and proposals. Business is still growing at a good healthy rate. We're still hiring. No deadlines have been missed. We're hitting all of our "numbers." I think I've done a reasonably good job of separating my personal life from my business activities.
Just about all the time. This still hurts a lot.
A little bit, although "resentment" may be too strong a word. I've come to think that I probably don't know who the real Lisa really is very much at all. I suspect she was hiding a lot for me. I doubt I'll ever know the real reasons for that, but I'm guessing she believes she has good reasons to hide things about her life from others. I probably feel sad for her about this, more than I "resent" her about this.
Absoluely not. As much as it hurts now, I had a ball this last year. I experienced some things in a way I haven't ever before, and I learned more about me and my feelings that I would never have learned before. I would never want to give that up, even if it meant avoiding the pain.
I don't know how to answer this. Too much is in flux right now. Four weeks ago I would have said I'd probably be in the midst of starting a 2nd family in five years. Now, that seems quite unlikely. One thing I do know: a year ago it would have been unthinkable to me to imagine I would drastically change my life. Now, I know I have been thinking seriously about making major life-changing decisions. I am much less complacent about continuing my life on an unsatisfactory basis. I don't know if marriage counseling will be able to change my life and make it better, but I suspect I will attempt that route. If it works, great, and my life will have been improved. If it doesn't work, than I think some other changes will be needed.
