my suggestion..
First-I personally lost 5 people,all relatives-plus some fire and police friends through my job-and yes-most of the guys and girls would have liked one more go round-
Second-I didn't mention charity,becuase I don't know where it's going,and because many wouldn't have believed it-even though I know if she says it,it'll happen-
Third-I didn't mention names because she is a friend,and it was the concept,not the whom
Fourth-Yes,I will mourn,deal and watch TV with tears in my eyes-and then hopefully be with someone -the post was a discussion for the ladies only..