"hypocrisy" of the "so called swinging community"... well, i am sorry, but those are fighting words. before i take those on, allow me to preface this by stating outright and unequivocally that we fully support and believe in the whole hobbyist pursuit. just like the swinging lifestyle, we view it as an entirely legitimate pursuit of yet another form of engagement in an honest sexual inclination.
so that being said, most of is that participate in the swinging lifestyle do not (i repeat, do NOT) want to involve ourselves with hobbyists who use "sex workers" to gain entrance to our activities. We are by and large committed couples who gather together for the sole purpose of meeting other like-minded committed couples. our best hope is that it will result in having sex with other couples that we meet. What that specifically, generally means is us all sharing our partners (most commonly wives, husbands, girlfriends or boyfriends) with those of the other pairs that we meet.
when we do, we usually hope that in so doing, it isn't just a one time thing. when everyone likes each other, and the sex is good (or even great) we all generally hope it will result in a genuine friendship that will include additional, perhaps even regular sexual get togethers.
you know what, i am gonna stop beating around the bush, and be blunt and personal... in those situations, the woman I am with and whom I am sharing with the people we meet is my wife. my life partner, my best friend and my love. the most important person in the world to me, who, it just so happens (fortunately for me) also shares a similar willingness and appreciation for the pursuit of expanded sexual interaction.
My wife loves having sex with other couples, and even multiple groups of couples. The couples we meet are not only people with whom we become sexual involved, they become friends. You know what my wife does not want? To find out that the couple we meet and fuck is not a couple at all, but just some guy and the hooker he hired to get into the party.
You think you have something to say that is not total BS? I would love to hear it, but i would bet any amount of money that all it amounts to is a diatribe about how if we really practiced what we preached, we would welcome you all and your hired companions with open arms. believe that if you want, but the truth is, we don't. we don't want you at our parties, and even more importantly, everyone can spot the guys that come with paid dates, and it is a fairly common, fun pastime to joke amongst ourselves about them.