empowerment
An incident happened to me when a man surreptiously removed his condom while I was participating in a swing scene. I felt an extreme violation from this. (He came inside me without my permission and against the rules of the place and against my own personal rules) I felt worse the next day and the next than on the original night it happened. I felt really dirty and violated from it. The only thing that made me feel better and lifted the whole depression I experienced (which was quite deep) was to report the man to the manager of the club. Somehow a relatively small act - - detailing the incident and complaining about the man, getting him in trouble and venting publically to a person who was in a position to stop this man from ever entering the club again, (as it were through, though a little e-mail,) was the thing that returned me to my usual positive mood. It's a self-esteem issue, in my opinion. One must empower oneself by fighting back and not being a passive victim.
So my advise to the woman who was raped would be to go to the police and try to find the man, get him in trouble for it. Make a suit against him. I don't believe in vigilante justice; But going to the police or somehow getting the man back, no matter in how small a way, is the right thing for a person's mental health, imo. And also sends a message to the man that it might not be so easy to get away with the next time.
If she cannot find the man who did it and get back at him I feel *really* sorry for her. In that case I would join a group therapy of woman rape victims - - that way I could bitch about what happened with people who understood. And go through it or work it out by talking, in a situation where there were other's facing the same trauma. I think it would take longer to get over if in some way one did not actively address what had happened.
I think action rather than passivity is the way out.
Perhaps volunteering to assist other rape victims is another venue of action that would help a woman emotionally, imo.
Just one woman's opinion.