"My girl is an entertainer, dancer, stripper, etc..."

[BennyBlanc0]

In many old posts I read about UG members getting close to, taking care of, and even dating these types of girls... and stories accounting the drama of being with one.

Just wanted to see who else had a relationship (using term loosely) with an entertainer, dancer, stripper, etc. How was it? How did it inevitably end? Was it fun while it lasted? Share your story!!!


I leave you with the lyrics to "Titty Dancer" by Dan Diamond. (in my experience happened 99% the same way)

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My girlfriend is a dancer
She's a dancer
My girlfriend is a dancer
A titty dancer


She likes to talk to those other guys
And she really knows how to lie
She never comes home to me
She's always lying on that ecstasy
When I see her face it makes me sick
I swear to god I'ma kill this bit@#
I waited home way after 2
And she shows up with another dude.

(chorus)

When I'm walking in the bar
She's on stage like a porno star
Susshhh
This bartender's telling me
That she's giving head frequently
She's off work now were driving home
She counts her money while she's on the phone
And then she asks me if I wanna play
And now were headed for a three way

(chorus)

Ohh shake your thing girl
Let me see your body move
Ohh shake your thing girl

(chorus)

Now I'm waking up from this
And I feel like my heads a mess
Another morning another friend
And now they want sex again
You see this happens all the time
Looks like now yeah this girl is mine
I guess this is the life I lead
I guess this is the life I need

 

[SnipeHockey19]

You're all for the most part, incorrect.

The thing is... You don't want to be asking the woman for yourself I be paying for sex. I am 24 years old. When I was 18 I pursued and successfully dated my first stripper. I did not try to do this at all. I was 18 and we had an 18 and up club in our town. Being that we lived in Albuquerque, there wasn't much to do on a Friday/Saturday night besides go to the local strip club(being that you had to be 21 to get into bars, but only needed to be 18 to get into the full nude strip club.) I used to go there with my friends every weekend, the girls would always greet us, I usually spent about 100 a week/ 50 a night every time I would come by, but I would spend it on the same girl a few nights in a row, then a different girl a few nights in a row the next few nights. Eventually after about a month, all the girls knew if they grabbed me when I walked in they could get a for sure 50 bucks out of me minimum. On top of that I would generally meet them in the parking lot after they got off each night and we would smoke some weed and maybe do a little bit of coke. Eventually smoking blunts and joints in my car evolved into going back to my hous or their house and smoking blunts and joints... Which inevitably turned into smoking and then have sex before we passed out at night. I never not even once propositioned any of these girls for sex. It jut happened.

My advice fr you is to stop trying so hard. Kick back. If its gonna happen it will... An generally once you fuck the first dancer at a club it opens the door and makes t easier to get with a few more, I don't know why that is, if it is because they want what the other one has or what, but once I fool around with the first one at that specific club, it always become much more easier to bag a few more at that same club/sameshift/same nights of the week

Other facts about me... I drive an Audi a6, an play college hockey, I often invite the girls I come watch me play and if that conversation doesn't take off I talk about myself being a business law/finance major and being determined to get to law school. I never say I have money... I always let them assume that I do and go along with it. All strippers see is dollar bills, but you can't just go trying to offer them money for sex. There are cops that come into the clubs and do that on a regular basis trying to busy girls and clubs for soliciting prostitution. If you are too upfront these girls will think you are a cop and get sketched out. This also goes for offering drugs... Let them know you have it discreetly, don't be obnoxious or too aggressive or it will turn them away.

This is the best advice I can give. My last three ex girlfriends were and still are strippers. Dating strippers is great if you like a girl that lets you spend her money... But you can't get attached or be a jealous person. Let her do her thing, let her make her money, let her grind on guys and occasionally blow guys in VIP without you getting mad or jealous about it, if you do successfully end up dating a stripper, remember that she was a stripper when you met her, don't fall in love, have a good time and spend her money.

-expert

 

[ereuben]

I have a few dancer friends and dated 2. One was brief and fun. The other got serious but the girl was not in the right place ... if we'd met anywhere else, we'd probably still be together.

 

[Escort_King]

Have a mate who dates endless strippers - looks a little like Keneau Reeves - but we go out and sit at the bar, tip the bartenders well and buy drinks for the dancers - like was said above just be normal - talk about their lives outside - interests in skiing or sailing etc. - go outside and smoke and come back smelling good... they get to know us and see us at after hours or the diner etc. and some ask if we are going home - once one or two have been to your house for late night drinks and a swim it gets very casual and some stay the night

have screwed a handful - my friend over 50

 

[ereuben]

.... The above or find the girl who's in to partying and have lots of blow ;-)

Seriously tho, I met more dancers without doing that. Depends on the place or where you are but where I used to hang many of these girls were just making bank in between other lifetime goals (one cutie (smoke doob) was from Israel, another was from Japan and was studying business, another was a AA airlines attendant and took the dancing gig after 9/11 ...., etc.

 

[Al Shrepton]

Yes, it's not hard to date strippers and you don't need a fortune to do it. Ironically, it is important that you NEVER do a lapdance with a girl you want to date or you will have constructed a wall preventing her from allowing a "free" relationship with you. Of course, you can and should give a dollar or two here/there and buy a drink when it would be rude not to (but you'll likely be inclined to buy more drinks than you should). I'll typically say to the girl(s), hey I got [some exact amount] to get me all the way through next Thursday [or whenever]. This technique filters out the parasites who will tease you and tease you, but the technique does require that you be constantly friendly and charming and alert to non-creepily offer things like rides and ...DVDs. I have no idea why the DVD clearance bin at Walmart remains a mystery to these chicks. You start talking up some movie (which you already have the DVD for) and get them interested and tell them you've already seen it, they can have and keep your DVD (only watched once!) and they meet you to retrieve the DVD and for some reason they often feel like they owe you. I have been invited to her place to watch the DVD, fed a decent meal, and enjoyed adult fun with the promise of more.

Unlike others, I don't mind being referred to as "a friend", but I clarify very early that I want to be a "friend WITH BENEFITS" who will not be happy to be a mere "friend". Just explain that she's so attractive you'd otherwise have chronic blue balls; stripper-types tend to take that as a compliment if you're matter-of-fact and not pathetic about it.

 

[Gavvy Cravath]

Interesting thread. Got a story. On the iPhone. Picking up my stripper "friend". Basically, all that was said above is true. Talk about real life, what you do, what they are studying, books you've read. And never, ever get a lap dance from them. Too them a few extra bucks when they come around. I'm out...

 

[Axe]

Slinky (and I think JL) has pointed out the main problem with dating strippers:

You're an asshole if you continue to let her be a stripper! How dare you! You want to be her bf, but you dont want to support her financially so she can finally get out of this shitty business?! Go fuck yourself!

OR

You're an asshole if you want to take her away from the most exciting job she's ever had, or ever will have. How dare you want to change her life? Go fuck yourself!


I'm not saying it isnt worth it. I've dated a few myself. But, for the most part, it's very unlikely to end well. Of course, when that happens, it will be YOUR fault. lmao

 

[out of control]

The other theory is to keep it simple. Get a lap dance ask for take out. Go to a short stay hotel. This method can also work well with none of the above complications.

 

[RuffToy]

Have a mate who dates endless strippers - looks a little like Keneau Reeves ...

Verizon?

Perhaps we know the same chap?

 

[Shiro]

I'm not saying it isnt worth it. I've dated a few myself. But, for the most part, it's very unlikely to end well. Of course, when that happens, it will be YOUR fault. lmao

Ditto. I have a friend who is currently dating a stripper and he started complaining about her grinding on other guys for $$ recently even though he met her at that exact same club. I just said to him "I don't hear you complaining when she's banging your brains out and paying for the past few trips to Vegas." They're still together but he has since stopped visiting her at the club.

 

[NewComplex]

I actually have a friend who does this too. His ex and current girlfriend are both strippers.

Now, a thing with my best friend, is he has a habit of stretching the truth (if not outright lying) so I've learned over the years to take what he tells me with significantly more than few grains of salt.
His ex... Now, of our group of friends, there are only three or four of us who are strip club friendly. Of these friends, only one (besides my best friend) has actually seen this stripper at our favorite club. So during our first time at this club, my best friend gets a dance from this stripper. Allegedly, they just end up talking and clicking. After several more visits, he allegedly gets her number. They allegedly go on quite a few dates, drop the "L" bombs on each other... all within the span of maybe three, four months.
You notice my use of the word "allegedly." I reiterate, my friend has a habit of stretching the truth.
Now, I'll be upfront about something: Me and my group of friends? We are geeks, inside and out. We are not the most attractive men on the planet. We have very little (if any) game with women. And some of us, like my best friend, have had remarkably poor luck with women.
So when he would come to us, gushing and bragging about how great life is with his new stripper girlfriend, and regaling us with stories of dates followed up with mind blowing sex... we were skeptical. And upon further listening, picked out quite a few discrepancies with his stories.
Like how he would insist he would go out on dates with her... yet whenever we would hang out with our friend usually just a day or so afterwards, he would be mysteriously broke and insisting we cover everything until his next paycheck (for the record, my friend makes pretty damn decent money at his job) Why would he be so financially drained after a single date? He would seriously blow through a $500+ paycheck on a single date? Impossible. Unless...
His "dates" were just visits to see her at the strip club. Where $500 would get you an ample amount of private dance time (And give or take the gas of a 45 minute drive to the club, and back home again.) A theory which, upon double checking the club's schedule, matched up exactly with his "dates."
Another HUGE red flag was that he would never call her by her real name. He insists that she told him what it was, and that he wanted to keep it a secret. Yep.
Finally, he did in fact let it slip (by accident) in a conversation between the two of us that he had never seen her outside the club. He immediately started backpedalling and claiming he meant to say something different, but too little too late.
They eventually broke up, and the story goes that they were having sex (another little tidbit: He would claim that the girls at this club would be able to do anything up to outright fucking you in their private rooms. This, me and all my friends will testify, is a load of shit, as their private rooms are three dinky stalls separated by super thin walls and curtains, and watched by security. But then, according to my friend, this particular moment didn't take place at the club...) and that she called out another guy's name, and he dumped her then and there. Obviously, I don't even know where to start with what's wrong with this picture. But I'll settle this with one thing about my best friend: I'm reasonably sure he's NEVER been the one to dump a girl. Ever.

So long story short (too late, to quote Clue) he's not dating a stripper. Cue me and the rest of my friends' sigh of relief.

Until not even a week later, and he's dating one of her co-workers.

And yep, it's a whole lot of the same all over again. Alleged "dates" that ever so coincidentally line up with her scheduled work days, swapping I LOVE YOU's within a couple months of dating, refusal to even call her by her real name (again; if he even knows it) and one major driving point home: He is constantly promising to introduce her to us and how she will show up to birthday/holiday parties... and she NEVER has, always with an excuse of "oh something came up but she was super looking forward to meeting us!" Spare me.

Now, this is my best friend. And while me and my equally suspicious friends considered stepping in, we held back when we learned a few other of his friends questioned why he would want to date a stripper... or if she even existed in the first place. He immediately cut all ties with these friends right after that conversation, and to this day has only forgiven maybe one of them and just doesn't talk to the rest. We do value our friendship, but clearly this is just going to be something he'll have to learn the hard way, it seems.

 

[Banacek]

I actually have a friend who does this too. His ex and current girlfriend are both strippers.

Actually, you don't 'cause actually he's not, according to your very sorry tale.

Very easy cure for your friend's BS. Find out who the new stripper is that's he's "dating." Get a private dance with her. Get her to blow you while her eyes are closed. Take a selfie. Show to to your BFF and tell him you're "dating" her, too, now. Your friend will be cured of his BS. But he may not be your friend anymore. His loss, though, because he's losing such a good friend like you.

 

[NewComplex]

Actually, you don't 'cause actually he's not, according to your very sorry tale.

Very easy cure for your friend's BS. Find out who the new stripper is that's he's "dating." Get a private dance with her. Get her to blow you while her eyes are closed. Take a selfie. Show to to your BFF and tell him you're "dating" her, too, now. Your friend will be cured of his BS. But he may not be your friend anymore. His loss, though, because he's losing such a good friend like you.

Well I guess technically, you're right...

But there are several problems with that plan:
- If she's working, odds are extremely high my friend will be seeing her at the club.
- Somehow I don't think my girlfriend would appreciate me getting blown by her.
- The aforementioned "There is no way you could actually get anything besides a dance from a girl in a private dance room and get away with it" point.
- Plus that is just too low, even for me.

Alas, I think it is my role in life to be the guy who just stands back, and when it all falls apart, to be the consoling pat on the shoulder.
If he does pull this shit a THIRD time though, I WILL speak my mind about it and tell him he's being an idiot.

 

[Banacek]

Well I guess technically, you're right...

But there are several problems with that plan:
- If she's working, odds are extremely high my friend will be seeing her at the club.
- Somehow I don't think my girlfriend would appreciate me getting blown by her.
- The aforementioned "There is no way you could actually get anything besides a dance from a girl in a private dance room and get away with it" point.
- Plus that is just too low, even for me.

Alas, I think it is my role in life to be the guy who just stands back, and when it all falls apart, to be the consoling pat on the shoulder.
If he does pull this shit a THIRD time though, I WILL speak my mind about it and tell him he's being an idiot.

- He "dates" her every night she works? Wow, is he whipped.
- I didn't realize that I had to add a warning for you not to tell your GF.
- He's blowing through a $500+ paycheck and just getting dances?
- I don't look on it as being low. You'd be helping out a friend.

 

[NewComplex]

- He "dates" her every night she works? Wow, is he whipped.
- I didn't realize that I had to add a warning for you not to tell your GF.
- He's blowing through a $500+ paycheck and just getting dances?
- I don't look on it as being low. You'd be helping out a friend.

I'd rather NOT cheat on my gf, thanks.

 

[Banacek]

I'd rather NOT cheat on my gf, thanks.

Here's a thought. See if your buddy's "GF" is bi and use her for your bi fantasy with your GF. You could even spice things up and make it a double date by including your friend. That would shut him up. Just tell him no crossing swords.

 

[NewComplex]

Here's a thought. See if your buddy's "GF" is bi and use her for your bi fantasy with your GF. You could even spice things up and make it a double date by including your friend. That would shut him up. Just tell him no crossing swords.

No can do. He has pictures of her (humorously enough, one looks like a very staged glamour shot like you'd see on a backpage ad; the other is her and my friend together in a place that looks very much like the club.) and he's shown them to my girlfriend. So that would not end well in the slightest.

I have no problem just waiting this out. By my estimates, I don't think my friend can keep this up for much longer. I think something has to slip eventually.