I will chime in because I feel your pain as if it were my own.
I wish I could tell you to just take a universal herb that works for all, but that would be misleading.
Possibly the guys here who take prescription type ED drugs could offer better advice, as I have never taken them. Some like them. But some experience side effects.
As a long time monger, I have had my ups and downs. I have always experimented in my basement with hundreds of herbal concoctions and studied more ancient approaches to male potency and sexuality.
Because, even when I was young, I always wanted to be more powerful in bed. So, a mere 15 minute romp was a deep disappointment to me because of my sexual obsession. I always wanted to remain in and never leave the groove of sexuality. (Thankfully, I have learned to broaden my horizons)
So, fast forward to recently. I am not in New York. So, I don’t participate in UG discussions. But, I just drop in to see how the boys are doing.
My escapades in Asia offer very little help to my friends here in New York and add nothing to their local experience.
So, with that background, I will get to the point.
In the past almost one year up until recently, I was not feeling like I was winning in bed. I mean, I was getting the job done, but not totally in command.
Also, not sleeping well until these past 2 months, and just feeling lackluster, and noticing that my attractive aura was greatly diminished. Also, it is dreadfully hot here and takes a while to acclimate)
And, saying to myself “Well, Mugi, you’re in your sixties, maybe the good ole’ days have slipped away.”
In Asia, for my general health, I went to a young cheap herbalist. I just wanted him to treat my general health. I just wanted a good tonic for sleep and I was feeling a bit anxious with being alone in Asia with COVID restrictions and dealing with the fears people have, seeing a westerner like myself on their soil, and the disease he might bring to their country. I am always being heavily scrutinized and watched, and it was sort of getting to me.
The young herbalist in his twenties did his pulse and tongue examination. I just told him I was feeling low energy and not sleeping, nervous.
So, he tells me that my body and psyche are weak. I never mentioned sexual lethargy. But, in Asian medicine, good sex drive even in the elderly is a prime indicator of good general health. The pulse should show good vibrant: heart, kidney and liver meridian energy.
And, knowing enough about herbs, studying his formula, there was very little in there to boost the kidney system sexual energy. So, he was not directly treating sexual function.
After not sleeping well for over a month, I would be happy to cure that alone, along with the anxiety.
So, I took the herbs for a few days and noticed I did not get up at night to pee, slept very well, greatly reduced anxiety, and I had good morning wood.
In fact, I felt so relaxed and in the moment, I happened to be in a situation where an elderly man fell unconscious and stopped breathing. Nobody knew what to do, far away from any help. So, I rushed in, pushed everybody aside and revived him, stayed close by for an hour until he could walk on his own. I just felt that good. The herbal remedy greatly balanced my system and more of me was available, and that includes in emergencies and during sex.
Anyway, I am not perfect and not 20, but my sexual prowess has returned. I am hitting the red light districts, brothels, AMPS, parlaying into civilians, and feel strong and in command in the bed.
So, in good judgment, I cannot tell you to just take ginseng, although that is a good go-to for sexual strength, along with yin yang huo, cordyceps, deer antler, goji, cornus fruit, longan, and formulas like: you gui wan, jin kui shen qi wan, and so many others.
You are young and you should have
many years of sexual power in your future.
I am suggesting that you seek out one of the many Oriental Medicine Doctors in your vicinity to restore your imbalance and your swag.
The key here is balancing your body with a few dollars, less than a cheap session with that Asian grannie, and owning your sexuality and overall health for your lifetime.
Because, my dear friend, and it was mentioned here before, when you are strong sexually, it is deeply seated in your body.
I mean, we all like very attractive girls. But, if you are strong-strong, you will make due with a less than gorgeous partner. You will find some redeeming quality in her to make your experience wholesome and delightful. As long as she is not repulsive to the point of making you vomit.
Your “morning wood” in the morning is a strong biological function and has has less to do with mind and emotions.
Make yourself as strong as you can, and go out and enjoy yourself.
Getting your sexuality strong again can create a powerful magnetism in your life and help you to become successful in many other areas of life.
So, I can only offer a few solutions. I believe the best solution is to see a professional herbalist.
In the city, you have Kamwo Herbs
211 Grand Street
NY, NY
212-966-6370
Kamwo can prescribe raw herbs to be boiled. (maybe they will boil them and package them for you)
But, also, you can go the easier, cheaper route there and tell the specialist there exactly your sexual weakness problems (they greatly vary) and your other health concerns, and he/she can prescribe cheap pills that are far easier than boiling herbs. They are known for their high standards.
It is a good store and also a good teaching institution. It might be a quick and easier solution for you.
Boiling herbs, takes time, patience and a little know-how.
Asian people are used to it. But it is not a common western concept to boil soup herbs for many hours to condense its nutrients.
Of course, you mentioned having a previous Asian girlfriend, or surely even the girls on 40th Road in Flushing will direct you to a more famous herbalist in Flushing.
Some herbalists can boil the herbs in a powerful pressure cooker and seal the soup in heavy plastic containers and you can drink the customized formula AM and PM.
I promise you, if you persevere, your original sexual power will re-emerge and stay with you until you decide to abandon it. (If you get a partial erection now, you are half way there)
PS: Don’t masturbate, unless there is a huge buildup of semen.
PSS: Another doctor in Flushing is more expensive but of good reputation, I believe
Tak Chio Cheong
133-16 41st Road
Flushing, New York 11355
718-886-6858