Married but dating

SirF

SirF

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#21
On my bank account it just shows up as Paypal Instant Xfer. On my Paypal account it shows up as ADL Media 100 Credit Package and the profile number.

My wife never checks this. She doesn't even have the paypal login info. But if she ever asked, I would say it's internet porn or something. If you google that there is a lot of crap under ADL media.

My bank account is online and hence not known by my wife either.

Chance of her finding out the truth: low.
 
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badboy5456

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#22
I don't think I am that worried about the wife seeing the ADL Media, I too could pass it off as something, but I was concerned about my real name showing up on the PayPal info sent to Ashley Madison, IF indeed any personal info does show up when you use PayPal. I'm not quite sure how it works yet.
Now, as far as to join or not to join, I was under the impression from reading the Ashley Madison rules that a "full" member could reach out to any guest member, and they could reply. Only one member needed to be a paying member, and all subsequent emails to the same person were free. I though I could send an email to an interesting guest member and say "if interested after reading my profile reply to... (my normal gmail address). Do they screen your email and prevent you from using anything but the Ashley Madison email? I do feel like I am missing something, my idea would be too easy.
As for the prepaid credit cards, I initially thought of that, but their website says they are not accepted. I emailed them to be sure, and got the same response. Didn't make any sense to me, as going to the mall and buying a prepaid Visa card would be easy, and safe. But they say no, unless I am misunderstanding them.
Once again I appreciate any input.
 
wolf5958

wolf5958

lil Fuzzybear
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#23
As far as slipping your Gmail addy into the communication, it may work but like any membership site read the rules. Most sites only want commuication done on their site by paid memeber (it is how they make money). Somewhere in those rules I am sure there is something said about termanating your account for violations. Pesonally I thing you would be better off trying a free site like POF, there are a bunch of total free sites or ones that do allow paying memebers to commuicate with everyone and allows everyone to respond. I think the problem is that so many of these so called hook up sites are filled with fake profiles on the female side and the only ones paying are guys thinking they have found easy targets. You ask about screening you mail well if they want to they can and it will be disclosed in thier rules of membership. I just hate to see people throw away their money....
 
moodswingingman

moodswingingman

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#26
Adult Friend Finder will lead you to pros looking to hookup.
Ashley Madison? I signed up for free and then promptly canceled the membership once I caught a glimpse of the 'members'. Face it, the odds of finding someone not looking to turn a profit these days is slim.
Fling is just another scam site that spams CL and Yahoo Personals.
The days of true casual encounters between two consenting adults may be at an end.
 
SirF

SirF

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#27
So I am updating my profile with a good picture. Of course, I am not going to post my real picture but I can't really find one that I like on the other boards. Does anyone have an idea as to where to find pictures for my profile? I need it to be close but not me. I tried various personals sites but wasn't happy with it. Where do the CL posters get their pictures I wonder??
 
wolf5958

wolf5958

lil Fuzzybear
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#28
SirF said:
So I am updating my profile with a good picture. Of course, I am not going to post my real picture but I can't really find one that I like on the other boards. Does anyone have an idea as to where to find pictures for my profile? I need it to be close but not me. I tried various personals sites but wasn't happy with it. Where do the CL posters get their pictures I wonder??
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why not try photobucket or you can steal someone else pic of a porn site. Sorry but you realize you are doing exactly what we get pissed off at the girls for when they do B&S to us. What about the poor smoe whose picture you steal?????
 
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paperpusher

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moodswingingman said:
Adult Friend Finder will lead you to pros looking to hookup.
Ashley Madison? I signed up for free and then promptly canceled the membership once I caught a glimpse of the 'members'. Face it, the odds of finding someone not looking to turn a profit these days is slim.
Fling is just another scam site that spams CL and Yahoo Personals.
The days of true casual encounters between two consenting adults may be at an end.
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They still exist, but you have to be creative. Try the local supermarket during the day, if you have game.
 
SirF

SirF

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#30
So wifey came home the other day and was all excited coz' she heard some women in my town used match.com to get laid. "Can you believe they post their pictures and they get rated? OMG!!!" Blah blah blah. Anyway, made me think, maybe I should check out this site. Signed up and get an email a day with hot chicks wanting to meet me. Skeptical bastard that I am, I haven't yet tried. Any pointers from anyone?
 
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RuffToy

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SirF said:
So wifey came home the other day and was all excited coz' she heard some women in my town used match.com to get laid. "Can you believe they post their pictures and they get rated? OMG!!!" Blah blah blah. Anyway, made me think, maybe I should check out this site. Signed up and get an email a day with hot chicks wanting to meet me. Skeptical bastard that I am, I haven't yet tried. Any pointers from anyone?
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If you just signed up and did not post a profile with pictures of yourself, these are shill emails you're getting. If you're married, I don't know how you intend on putting up a profile because that's the only way women on Match will contact you or accept your advances.

I have a friend who uses Match, he's divorced. He gets lots of "winks" from the ladies, has dated many. Most are looking for a real relationship, not a hook-up.
 
wolf5958

wolf5958

lil Fuzzybear
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#32
SirF said:
So wifey came home the other day and was all excited coz' she heard some women in my town used match.com to get laid. "Can you believe they post their pictures and they get rated? OMG!!!" Blah blah blah. Anyway, made me think, maybe I should check out this site. Signed up and get an email a day with hot chicks wanting to meet me. Skeptical bastard that I am, I haven't yet tried. Any pointers from anyone?
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Match is pretty much a serious dating site not just a fling site. The women are not looking to play but to land a husband. Be careful there is a lot of spam there to try and make you a paying memeber. Once you leave they hound you forever. I pulled down my profile a year ago and still get emails everyday say shit like she picked you....ha ha ha Bullshit.
 
SirF

SirF

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#33
I always use disposable email addresses for this sort of thing. But the point of my wife's friend was that she was using the site as a fling site, i.e. just to hook up and that the guys were doing the same thing. Many married guys looking for outsourcing options.
 
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DaveNJ

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I've never used any of them, but I'll guess that any site a woman uses for casual hook ups, she'll find plenty of guys willing to take her up on it. I'm sure that's not always going to be true for men though.

Just like almost any woman could walk into any bar and find some guy to fuck her. We all know it doesn't always work out that way on the flip side.
 
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SirF

SirF

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#37
here we go. Some newer ones that all seem to be more or less shills:

establishedmen.com
sexsearch.com
alt.com

Man, there are so many women out there who want to hook up with me, it's almost too good to be true.
 
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artie21

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#38
badboy5456 said:
SirF and all...
Just today I purchased a money order to try Ashley Madison (49$) after being a free
member for a few months. I too have been getting unsolicited mail from very interesting, attractive women and was beginning to think maybe it is a con just like you mentioned. Thank you for any advise.
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AM discloses that its own staff will send emails masquarading as members to PAYING members...not exactly a confidence inspiring methodology.
 
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bea

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AM Successes

Probably should have read the NP4P section, but I have had some successes with AM.

I ignore collect messages and any women who are either far away or unusually young (I'm 35), but I've had some good times with several women. It takes time and I would recommend being a paying member if only to be able to send actual emails to women. A modicum of intelligence and some good writing will get you pretty far.

Some of the women have aversions to 'full body pictures', so if you're really eager, you could set up two profiles, one with the full deal and one without. I just have a face picture and it has served me reasonably well.

Most of the other sites seem like scam sites or just really irritating. CL can occasionally lead to something and at least here in DC, there are a couple of swinger sites on Yahoo Groups that have some talent as well.
 
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