ARGH!!!
Let me try to word it differently.
By definition, being gay means you are attracted to people of the same sex. It has to do with who you want to kiss, not whether or not you double-teamed someone.
So, when you had sex with a guy and a girl, whether you touched the other guy or not, if you had any desire to kiss him, then you are gay or bi.
If in the heat of the moment you grabbed his dick and jerked him off or blew him, then you are kinky and open minded, but probably still straight. Unless you wanted to kiss him.
And who fucking cares about the label anyway? Do you have some form that you have to fill out? Do the activities that you like with the people that you want to do them with and stop worring about whether some asshole would call it gay or not.
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