This is a complex question but one of my favorite topics. I have trained myself to last as long as necessary and I have retained semen for as long as 3 months or more with regular sex and switching my focus on her multiple orgasms without a single ejaculation and also enjoying 3 or 4 partners at the same time.
I have studied tantric practices. So, that enabled me to sometimes be with a highly-sexed loving woman who does not know the meaning of quit and stay in her for even 4 hours, allowing her to be the Queen of the hive. (the female orgasm and eruptions and quakes satisfy me more deeply than my own, and it is an easy task for me to let out some juice on my own at any time after I enjoyed the female showing me absolutely her full gamut of femininity.
But, in my 60's now, I pump her less and just allow junior to remain fully stud-like and allow her to saddle me anyway she likes and use me for her pleasure. It is the greatest show on earth and I literally am the stage on which she performs. Many women like to control the pace.
However, now I will ejaculate according to my desire at a time I desire, if needed. I tend not to practice the 3 month retentions anymore for the sake of my prostate which could enlarge with the backup.
Not ejaculating while engaging in an active and frequent sex life overspills into your non-sexual activities like sports by intensifying your intention. Having conquered and controlled the outlet of semen, your will becomes hardened and you learn how to shift sexual energy into other spheres of life.
I have been actively engaged in this practice for over 40 years and find that my diet plays a great role in the practice. Taking very strong sexual stimulants can make the retention difficult and painful.
Also, by retention, the size of your penis definitely shows blossoming.
At certain times, though, when experimenting with certain herbs like Yohimbe and Ginko extracts, and others, retention became impossible, as semen shot out uncontrollably and quite embarrassingly, not fulfilling my mission of watching her scream it out.
But, but, but, in all honesty, 2 or 3 times in my life, I have met my match. There is a certain type of woman that is unique in the way that her vagina works. She might allow me to pump as much as I like but when it is officially her turn, she has many high gears that exceed my normal capacity. On those 2 or 3 occasions she introduced me to her turbo vagina which dispenses with the common in-and-out function, but has a very powerful action which snatches and clenches the unsuspecting penis and spins faster and faster in a centrifugal, cyclonic, tornado-like motion with an ever-increasing RPM velocity until her objective is met. On those two or three occasions, meeting up with these usually very young ladies, I was easily conquered and walked out shaking my head but also dazzled, amazed and satisfied that I lost to a superior force.
Disregarding those rare occasions of meeting up with those truly powerful ladies, I now use my years, knowledge and discipline of over 40 years to garner deeper satisfaction from the sexual act by prolonging the act for great lengths of time to watch her at her limits.
Quite recently I was with a very nice young lady, not of the tornado-turbo-cyclonic-vagina type, but just a nice young lady in her twenties and allowing myself to stay cool and hard for over an hour while she was allowed to fully express herself sexually, very much satisfied her and delighted her to the point of her dismissing the huge age differentiation and spending quality time with me in other fun activities of the fully clothed variety.
Staying hard longer does engender respect and admiration from the ladies. I know that a man with a lot of money can also win a lady's favor, but it is an attraction of a different quality.
