I still have both my parents & it would mess me up for years when they pass. Never apologize for venting about loss. Us guys don't have many chances to just feel & have emotions without being judged about it. Venting & eating are just some of the things we can do to cope.
As said above, the CVS BP meter isn't so accurate and a tester at home would be better.
If you are looking to take a step by step approach to turning your health around, then do two things:
Cut The Junk
Just Eat Real Food.
So first cut back on junk food that is loaded with sugar. The last time I felt this good & at this body weight was 11 years ago. Since then, I drank soda, ate junk food all the time, burritos, pizza, smoothies in 9 of the past 11 years & it gave me a whole slew of health problems.
It terms of cutting it out, some people need to go "cold turkey" on junk and just stop all of it. Other people need to cut it back little by little. I am the type of person who had to cut it all out from the get go. A little by little approach would not have worked & I would have made no progress.
In my opinion, most people would see significant changes if they only the two steps. But I took the two steps "Cut The Junk + Just Eat Real Food" further:
My steps of progress:
Cut out all junk food (candy, chocolate, cake, cookies, ice-cream, etc)
A month later, Cut out all low-fat milk, fruit juice & just about all fruit
A month later, cut out all grains (bread, pasta, oatmeal, crackers, chips, corn)
A month later, cut out all other starches (potatoes & beans)
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Side note: The reason for cutting out low-fat milk (lactose is type of sugar), fruit juice & just about all fruit (fructose), bread (starch), pasta, oatmeal, crackers, chips, corn, all other starches (potatoes), is that while you and I see a candy bar and two slices of whole wheat bread as being different. One is obvious junk food & then other is bread. I mean, what is wrong with bread??? The problem is that our digestion tract does not have eyes or a brain and does not rationalize away the differences between them. In fact it treats complex carbohydrates, say for example starch, the same and it breaks them down, in this example via a enzyme called amylase, into simple carbohydrates. So the sugar (sucrose) in a candy bar gets broken down into glucose & fructose just like a slice of bread does too.
So now, we have simple carbs that once made up complex carbs from either a candy bar or a slice a bread. Then these simple carbs are used for energy (not actually burned but oxidized) OR either they get stored as fat. Yes, fat. Both the candy bar and the slices of bread could make you fat. If it happens (used or storage) is dependent on the individual person's metabolic state.
I'm of the opinion that excessive eating of carbs can push us into a hormonal & metabolic state, whereby the body is being conditioned into preferentially storing energy as fat as opposed to using it. That is why I cut out so much of the carbs.
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During all of this cutting of carbs, I ramped up eating of whole real foods:
Meat (fish, chicken, beef, bacon, pork, eggs, goat)
Fats (butter, lard, cheese, heavy cream, olives, avocados)
Vegetables (leafy greens: kale, spinach, swiss chard, mustard greens, collard greens, lettuce; bell peppers, cucumbers, squash, tomatoes
Nuts: almond, walnut, pecans, brazil, not peanut since peanuts are legumes (beans) and not nuts.
It took about 4 months to kill the cravings for sugar & bread/pasta. It took about 5 month to learn how Americans ate just 60 years ago. I had to do a whole lot of buying of produce & prepping meats & vegetables. I no longer rely on a factory for decided what goes into my body.
People will read this and think: "Boy, oh boy. You cut out all the fun stuff that makes life worth living!! Whats the point of living if you aren't having any fun with it?
To that I answer: I look, feel, act, & am a different person having come through the process. I have 2 diseases of which one of has gone into remission. I have no symptoms of it at all. I don't take the meds anymore that can damage my liver and make my hair fallout. So I don't go to that specialist doctor anymore. That disease going away & letting me enjoy life again is worth it to not eat pizza (18 months) or a bagel(20 months).
If you want a normal soda but miss the normal taste, try mixing diet & regular. It will change the taste but at least you are getting less sugar via the High Fructose Corn Syrup. But do not replace 2 liters of soda with something just as sweet, such as a half gallon of orange juice or pineapple juice. Both soda & fruit juices are devoid of nutrition. Yup, I just lumped fruit juice with soda. A totally crazy idea in the eyes of the mainstream but it is valid on a chemical basis. Fruit juice, even fresh, is a small amount of vitamins, flavinoids, & antioxidants immersed in water and mixed with natural sugars fructose & glucose. Chemically similar to soda, just without the vitamins. Any decent chemistry student would identify them as having a similar sugar load.
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Sample day's menu:
breakfast: 4 whole eggs scrambled & cooked in coconut oil and a caprese salad (sliced fresh mozzarella, tomatoes and basil, seasoned with salt, and olive oil)
lunch: inside (no shell or soft tortilla) of of 4 or 5 tacos with sour cream & guacamole: pulled pork taco, chicken taco, beef taco, brisket taco
dinner: grilled skirt steak with bell peppers, onions, mushrooms, olives & capers.
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If you have further questions, I am happy to offer advice.