Skelly,
Vindication because of this latest incident ? No not really. I had already come to terms with the incident of 4 months ago fairly soon after the incident.
As I started off this thread I made reference to another thread in another place about a discussion of whether providers ever do BBFS. Using that discussion and its responses as a basis for understanding whether what had occurred was, on a scale of 1-10, 1 being freakishly abnormal and 10 being, say, happens all the time, this BBFS incident, taking into consideration the "not totally sober" element of the two participants, would fall somewhere around 8. Had they both been totally sober the number would be somewhere around 5 or maybe a bit less.
In either case, apparently a more frequent occurrence than would generally be believed around here.
I was offered BBFS once while totally sober and very politely said "No thanks".
Guy,
When I said "in this current (just finished ?) one" I was referrring to the thread that the APM CLOSED, not that I wouldn't discuss it.
Sorry for the confusion.
When I said "... in this latest incident, postings were made regarding "brutality" and "rape" which
now, apparently NEVER occurred. ... As you might expect I do not see any difference in the 2 incidents "
Apparently you "frowned in frustration", indicating you didn't understand what I was talking about, no ?
I'm not sure why you even bothered. Do you think you absolutely have to be let in on everything ? There are clearly many posts on this board that are privately understood by certain members and not others. One member even started a thread making reference to all the "secret handshakes" (I think he called it) and said he was tired of them. I am a little also. I guess I always want to know everything also but I've resigned myself to the fact that I will not. Maybe you should also.
Now I know what icon to use when I respond to most of your posts. Hahahahaha
Anyway, the previous incident to which I referred, which I will not relate in its entirety, was simply a case of BBFS between 2 people that were not entirely sober, virtually IDENTICAL to what happened here. Because of the FACTS not coming out, posters were making their opinions known based on all sorts of speculation and innuendo, which is apparently EXACTLY what happened this time to Ezrlove, if in fact the "brutality" and "rape" claims were made (since I didn't see them but apparently Ezrlove did).
Now it turns out that all that happened was BBFS. Now, don't bother getting outraged and accusing me of making light of the BBFS incident. I'm not making any judgment here whether it is or is not. I merely making the observation that it is CLEARLY nowhere near as pernicious (Is that the right word GC?) as BBFS.
Somehow I don't think pernicious is the right word. I guess that's what happens when you're trying to show off.