I post almost 100% of my experiences that were obtained through this board. I have been burnt alot of time for it, but feel a moral obligation (for lack of a better phrase), to give back, since I have taken so much from UG. With that being said, the vast majority of my experiences over the past 12 months have been from back channel referrals, where the person who informed me of the place, has asked that I not share it here or some place that I have uncovered where the girl is very clear in her desire not to be on the computer.
Yes it may appear that that some of my posts are geared to boasting (I am sure that sometimes I am), the vast majority of my successes are not posted here at all. But I am more motiviated by sharing what I know, since I learned so much from here. This is why I have spent so much time on the dialogue that has been sucessful for me, since it is not covered here much. This of coarse is in the AMP arena. For a regular provider, it is pay your money and go. And this is one of many reasons why I do not visit regular providers. I am not crazy about being a number at the deli counter.
The one thing I have learned about this hobby, is that women think differently on different days. You may be just a John one day and a valuable friend another. One way I test this, is violate their space unexpectedly. IF they back away, without thinking about it, then it is all business. But if they do not mind this violation of space and lean on you, than you have a chance that they view you amicably.
These providers have lots of guys trying to hit up on them to be friends, lovers, confidants etc, and sometimes it is possible to break through for a time. But they have so many layers of defense, it does not take much for them to revert back to the client only basis. And sometimes, they themselves are not in touch with how they feel.