I have two ways of dealing with a session.
If I know that I am really going in strong and am getting erections in my car or bus or whatever, prior to arriving with my girl, stage fright is non existent.
Confidence is all consuming, and thought is more focused on methods and techniques, positions, and apportionment of time devoted to which postures.
The second, more negative situation that is being addressed in this thread, is If I am not peaking high on the testosterone barometer, for one reason or another, and not in the habit of taking impotence drugs, best is to not even go.
However, if I cannot resist, I roll the dice and go. But, I give myself the right of first refusal. Meaning, if she ain’t what she should be, I walk.
But, if she is all that she should be, and more, I let her sexuality mingle with mine, and enjoy the delicious foreplay, and give myself permission to fail.
Nine times out of ten, you will perform optimally. And, if you don’t perform excellently, it does not matter. I still enjoyed sex with a beautiful woman. And, I will promise her that I will return when I am full of steam and powerful, and really give her a long, strong steamrolling. And, make good on that promise.
As far as the other aspect of stage fright, being continually videotaped from your approach to the venue, and possibly even during the act, itself. That is just our era, and we have to live with that. Video technology is ubiquitous and will only increase.
Knowing that I am videoed most of the time, I make sure that I am well-groomed and act appropriately and gentlemanly-like. I like to wear a hat for some semblance of camouflage.
At least in the highly unlikely situation where my video is being used against me, my demeanor and manners will not be called into question. At least It will be said that I performed this illegal act with a certain amount of elegance and dignity.
If I later have to view my own video, I want to be able to be proud that my performance in the movie is “nominatable” for one of the better pictures of the year.