Wifef vs Provider - Round 1

[Geezy Muldoon]

PS:

The mutual exchange of mercy is the only way to be truly naked and erotic. That is the sexiest and most difficult trick of all especially for the innately promiscuous who don't need anybody and are just too cool for words. People like myself.

Which coyote turns into a dog first and expresses their willingness to behave less wildly at least with respect to the other? Lots of snarling and biting teeth. The ASPCA will, no doubt, have to be called in.


JC

 

[pjorourke]

Originally posted by pswope
I could not agree with you more that 100% is the penultimate and can only be acheived when both parties are totally comfortable with themsleves and each.

But what comes after 100%?

 

[Geezy Muldoon]

Enlightenment?

 

[pjorourke]

No thanks, I like to leave the lights off.

 

[pswope]

Originally posted by pjorourke


But what comes after 100%?

Regression.

(why do you think divorce rates are so high)

 

[Geezy Muldoon]

Love is very difficult. The media, popular music, movies, etc. just make it seem easy when its not. Hence the continuing popularity of commercial sex where all parties are assured at least the appearance of maximum control.

 

[BigMadM]

Cant answer this question.
Part of a good sex life is the intense romance
With my wife, I still enjoy kissing and foreplay
With providers, I dont kiss and the foreplay is not that impt to me either.
Im paying to have fun for myself.
A top professional lady doesnt give a shit if she is pleasured or not. Her concern is that of the client and that he goes home happy so he will come back.

So sex may be slower and warmer with my wife, but a young energetic provider can take you for quite a ride.

I think its all good in its own way.

 

[daengman]

This discussion kind of reminds me of a time a few years ago when two merchants on the lower east side were standing outside their side by side stores shortly after opening. The first one says to the other "Irving, how's the hardware business these days?" "Well, Izzy, not too good. People aren"t buying hammers, nails, light bulbs and stuff like that like they used to do." "So Irving, hows your business?" "Well Izzy, my business is like sex." "Like sex? How can the grocery business be like sex? I don't understand." "Izzy, its like this. When business is good, it's really good. But even when it's not so good, it's still pretty good."

 

[UGrant]

Wait a minute, if I meet with a provider I have to please her? What if she doesn't like me or I'm not her type? I figured I would have one come over to my place, handle my business and send her on her way.

 

[*******]

Originally posted by UGrant
Wait a minute, if I meet with a provider I have to please her? What if she doesn't like me or I'm not her type? I figured I would have one come over to my place, handle my business and send her on her way.

A good provider will always put your needs first but it's much more pleasurable if your both into it & do what comes naturally. Think of it as a one night stand type of girlfriend experience.

As long as your relaxed, clean & respectful, most likely you will be her type & she will show her appreciation immensely. Most of all just be your natural self & go with the flow.

 

[opie]

Re: Like comparing apples and oranges.

Originally posted by Eugene
First of all a true hobbyist IMHO needs both. A woman in his life being a wife or a girlfriend and for his "hunting instinct" the hobbying itself. To compare those two things is virtually impossible, as you pursue absolutely different objectives. You strive mostly for QUALITY at home and for VARIETY while "hunting".

I couldn't agree more. Sex with my wife, while she is quite prudish (doesn't swallow, doesn't enjoy BJ, no anal, now you know why I Hobby) is always very sensual. A completely different experience.

I really think I hobby because I allow my libido to run at its own will...

I had retired for about a year and a half and have found that I just couldn't stay away? maybe I didn't WANT to stay away...

Wow... way to much for today...

BYE

 

[red]

i agree we go to the SPs for the different things our wives wont do

 

[Cat_Ballou]

I've never been married, but both as a woman and as a provider, I find all of this to be utterly fascinating...

 

[biglarry1]

I voted for provider being marginally better simply because of the wider range of acts available. However my wife does provide me with something that I wont get with a provider.Full service without the rubber and doesn't that feel good.

 

[newsman]

It's interesting how we're always balancing wife with provider in this discussion. Like some other UG's I won't have bareback sex, for fear of harming my wife - and the lack thereof limits pleasure. I like providers who can cater to fetish and other stuff that wife can't/won't provide and which don't make me worried . I think lots of time I see providers to escape from stress as much as for sexual release. I like women who can put me in another space. This is only partly a function of physical, and very much a part of the style-wit-seductiveness of the provider. (Hence experiences with perfectly built but cold young girls can leave me pretty unfulfilled) But for me the open, unprotected sex with my wife
is the best sex - containing emotion, "mercy," all that good stuff.

 

[njman2]

Sex with providers offers variety. It also allows a greater level of control for the situation (i.e. I get to choose type and guess about attitude and quality etc.) However, I find that I am a much colder person when with a provider (mutual weedage can sometimes overcome this....http://www.utopiaguide.com/forums/images/icons/icon14.gif)

Sex with wife offers a safe place...that still challenges you to grow. I feel we're both providers. We both work to pleasure each other. For me, one of the most ego boosting things is that, at times, she wants to....

 

[twittle_bee]

Utterly Facinating

You can't make this stuff up guys. Your all so awsome. May I use this in they thesis for my docturate?
I am not kidding.
I was once married, however brief and annoying, and I found myself being the "hobbyiest."
Go figure. I left his butt and now I am quite th happy provider who gets to have tons of great sex!
I love variety. Like a kid in an the giant candy store in Midtown

 

[Slinky Bender]

Originally posted by pjorourke
But what comes after 100%?

our amps go to 11 (hey, it's the 20th anniversary).

 

[Dvaenport]

Dvaenport here, weighing in....

First of all, I think its a great question. Thanks to the APM.
It gives me the opportunity to observe some of the answers of you knumbnuts out there. How about this?: why would you marry a woman that does not give you what you need in the first place? a-duh? That's just a recipe for disaster. That just drives you into the arms of a waiting PROV!

Exception? Your wife in is an accident or gets an unforeseen illness.

My answer? I wouldn't substitute my "main squeeze" for the "wife" category. However, since in this great country you get to PICK your wife and your PROV--and--IF I was married, still doing this, my answer would HAVE TO BE --
"about the same"

 

[yamaha]

sex with my wife when and i mean when it's not that often is great. way better than provider. it's like she is a porn star and thats what i need. from wife and provider. but these amp in ocean county are program to just do hj. when they do more it's hard to find one who will have fun too.