In my experience it’s a long game at the gym. If you show up once, and hit on the women mid workout, probably not gonna work. What’s worked for me is to go to the workout classes consistently for a couple of months. Befriend the instructors- give them little tokens of gifts that aren’t obvious- like one of the young hot ones, I gave her a Sephora gift card for like $25, said I got it as a gift and had no idea what it was. Now all of a sudden I’m her favorite, and she knows my name and calls it out in the class. Boom. Instant social validation. After some consistency establishing yourself you can start interacting with the women. Start with the fatties. Seriously. Ignore the hot ones. High five them, ask their names, introduce yourself. Some of them may end up turning hot at one point, and if you’re like me and like some variety, that’s super low hanging fruit. What it also does is further validates you as someone not looking to hit on women who definitely have their guard up at these places, even though they’re half naked in spandex. 2 months in, you should be a. In good enough shape to do the workout well, and b. Have enough social validation in the community. At f45 they pair you up, so if you are smart, position yourself before the class so you’ll get paired with milfy. Before you start the class quickly offer your hand and say “hey I’m DJme123” nice to meet you. Make sure you catch her name. When the workouts over, her endorphins are flaring, make sure you fist bump her and say great workout. Don’t try to hit on her right then and there. What i do is I’ll linger in the lobby area “on my phone” and then innocently follow milfy out the door. That’s when you make the move. Say “ hey milfy, I was gonna grab a cup of coffee and get some protein at Starbucks, can I buy you one?
No means no, and maybe she’s not interested or married or whatever. But so far I’m 3 for 3. We go to Starbucks, get coffee, and then I steer the discussion to divorce and dating and how hard it is to meet good people, and how lonely it can be. The first time, milfy asked me if I’d like to come by her house (she’s divorced kids are at school) to look at a cabinet door that wouldn’t stay closed. We fucked on the kitchen counter. The second and third Milfys went similarly with Starbucks with one and we the diner for eggs with the other. I didn’t go to their house like the first, but got their numbers. Text game, emphasizing loneliness of divorce, stuff like that. This is fairly new to me, and I do worry that milfy 1 will catch feels. The other 2 are barracudas and I’m a means to an end.
Also key is don’t make it obvious or akward in the classes. They’re regulars, and I think 2 and 3 know about each other.
hope this helps