"The Weird Porn Guy"

[superwoman01]

I decided to stop by one of my favorite Lingerie/novelty store’s to look for a sexy outfit for a Halloween Party that I am attending at the end of the month.
As I am browsing through the adult costume section of the store I see a man out of the corner of my eye coming out of the private section of the store (porn section). I would say he was in his late thirties or early forties. He was a good looking guy.
I turn to look at a playboy bunny costume and all of a sudden I hear a man’s voice saying “hello.”
I turn around and sure enough it’s the same guy. I said hello and he replies –they sure have a lot of costumes this year. I nodded my head and agreed but still in my own world. I kept looking at the selection of costumes. Then he says are you looking for a Halloween costume or is the outfit for something else! I thought it was an impromptu question but I replied that it was for a Halloween Party. Then I asked him if he worked at the store and he said no?
With that response in mind--I decided to take a couple steps in the other direction to continue my search & get away from him.
OMG! The dude then takes two steps in my direction as to follow me and proceeds asks me what were you last year for Halloween? “Ok RED FLAGS all over the field!” I thought to myself does he think that I was a prov or a dancer? Is he trying to pick me up at an adult store? WTF? Or is he trying to make friendly conversation and get my number?—Then I thought… well all he knows I could be a vanilla homemaker buying a sexy outfit for my husband! Regardless I thought these were all weird questions considering that they were coming from a guy I do not know that just came out of the porn section. Then to top it off --we are standing in the woman’s sexy adult costume section!
At this point I slide my hand into my pocketbook and put my finger on the pepper spray trigger…I then politely told him that I did not dress up last year and that I have to go! As I walked away I heard him say—well I need a costume and I really need a girlfriend! I pretended not to hear him and left the store!
OK was “the weird porn guy”—just a perv or was he really trying to pick me up and is this normal at the adult stores? Now I am honestly considered an open-minded young woman but I just did not think that it was the right place or situation! HOLY RAVIOLI!

 

[JusAsexToy4women]

Maybe he found it strange to see such an attractive women in such a place as well and thought there might be a casual encounter of the freaky nature

 

[superwoman01]

Maybe he found it strange to see such an attractive women in such a place as well and thought there might be a casual encounter of the freaky nature

Why Thank you JusAsexToy4women and that thought did cross my mind for about seven seconds. Does that really happen there? Ha!
Actually now that I think about it more-- I know that this particular store allows more than one person in the dressing room-only because I indulged a fantasy with an ex.
We went shopping there and he told me that I could have whatever I wanted as long as he could watch me try it on... wink..wink! LOL!
XXOO
Have a good evening!

 

[Axe]

Your post should be REQUIRED reading for all the horny bastards on this site who think anyplace/anytime is the right place/time to score some ass.

The line about discreetly reaching for your pepper spray is especially relevant.

Nothing illustrates the difference between men and women better than these situations. He's thinking "I'm gonna get laid!" ... and she's thinking "Where the fuck are the police when you need them??"

 

[Thorn]

Occam's razor.

Might he be the creepy pervert? Sure.

Is it more likely he is the lonely guy whose a little bit awkward with women [maybe even a married lonely guy - there are a lot of them]? Probably.

If the latter is the case he probably had to work up a lot of courage to approach an attractive woman and take that risk of being shot down.

 

[Axe]

If the latter is the case he probably had to work up a lot of courage to approach an attractive woman and take that risk of being shot down.

Absolutely.

In this situation, there is about a 20 second interval where the man makes his pitch and the women goes for it or runs like hell. There isnt much in the way of second chances or letting the woman think it over. It either happens or it doesnt and both results are immediate. Her immediate reaction was to put physical distance between them. Time to move on, AFAIC.

 

[superwoman01]

If that was the case...well

Might he be the creepy pervert? Sure.



If the latter is the case he probably had to work up a lot of courage to approach an attractive woman and take that risk of being shot down.

Some women and men both have these tendencies and have to learn to handle the situation. The fact is, walking up to an unfamiliar woman or man can be intimidating to many. And of course, we all have egos, so the last thing we want is to get to "shot down" just for taking the time and effort to attempt to speak to a woman or a man.

As for being shy-not one shy bone in my body!
I am the complete opposite. Actually I sometimes make the first move--remember Thorn? LOL!
I see a guy I want to talk to and I approach them but I doubt I would while in an adult store. It just seemed inappropriate!
Now...If I do get rejected by a guy-and it can happen to anyone, it would not be something that I would take very seriously, or let it affect my confidence in any way.

Now it's time for a few pointer's and these are my own opinons from my own experience.

1. Don't use cheesy pick-up lines. For example-Is it cold in here, or are you just happy to see me?--Wow! Are those real?--Excuse me, miss, do you give head to strangers? No. Well, then, allow me to introduce myself.--I know milk does a body good, but damn girl, how much have you been drinking?




2. Don't pretend that you understand everything about women. Guys that try
to "understand" us and be our best friend are annoying.

3. Don't try to hard. You don't have to say something super smart or funny every second. Relax and show us who you really are.

4. Please do not try the Palm Reading trick!

5. Don't try to pick me up in an Adult Store!

6. Please do not say to a woman..."I just got out of a Mexican jail."



.

 

[Poini]

Id never do what that guy did unless the girl was standing there with her tits out asking for it, but just speaking purely from a guys point of view.

Your a sexy female in an adult store, the guys pretty sexually worked up just being there. Your there browsing in an adult store, given you weren't in the adult section, but costumes or no costumes its still an adult store. Primal instincts take over as the guys already aroused and hes just purely acting trying to score anyway he knows how. I say theres no slick way to pick up a girl in an adult bookstore, but I can definitely understand why hed try. Honestly probably pretty good odds in an adult store vs any other store. Not something id do, but hey men are men. You females should know we will hit on you anywhere.

Your shopping, we'll hit on you.
You and your kid are arguing at some store, we'll wait for the argument to end, give you a polite understanding smile, and hit on you a few isles down.
Your out at a bar or club, we'll hit on you endlessly.
Your walking down the street, we will hit on you.
Your walking your dog, we will hit on you.
Your at a water park or hotel in a lazy river, we'll hit on you.
Godzilla is attacking something within our eyesite we'll hit on you.

I think the points been made. Any situation as a female, us men will hit on you. Really its not our fault.

 

[Axe]

1. Don't use cheesy pick-up lines. For example-Is it cold in here, or are you just happy to see me?--Wow! Are those real?--Excuse me, miss, do you give head to strangers? No. Well, then, allow me to introduce myself.--I know milk does a body good, but damn girl, how much have you been drinking?

2. Don't pretend that you understand everything about women. Guys that try
to "understand" us and be our best friend are annoying.

3. Don't try to hard. You don't have to say something super smart or funny every second. Relax and show us who you really are.

4. Please do not try the Palm Reading trick!

5. Don't try to pick me up in an Adult Store!

6. Please do not say to a woman..."I just got out of a Mexican jail."

There's too many differences between what individual women respond to and what individual men read when they see a woman hesitate and/or initially say 'no' to further 'progress.'

E.g., your list...

[1] One girl's 'cheesy' pick up line is another girl's 'witty' pick up line.

[2] Um. This dude had roughly 45 seconds to try and pick you up. The only thing he 'understands' is that he wants to get laid and you're either going to follow him into a dressing room or hit him in the eyeballs with pepperspray.

[3] One girl's 'trying too hard' is another girl's, oh man, see Number 1.

[4] How about Tarot cards? Again, see Number 1.

[5] Why not? The WHOLE atmosphere is screaming "LET'S FUCK!" Cant knock a guy for trying given the logic that follows being in an adult store in the first place.

[6] gavycrav can tell you there are a significant number of chicas in NY who get wet when they hear those words.

See what I mean?

 

[Axe]

Your shopping, we'll hit on you.
You and your kid are arguing at some store, we'll wait for the argument to end, give you a polite understanding smile, and hit on you a few isles down.
Your out at a bar or club, we'll hit on you endlessly.
Your walking down the street, we will hit on you.
Your walking your dog, we will hit on you.
Your at a water park or hotel in a lazy river, we'll hit on you.
Godzilla is attacking something within our eyesite we'll hit on you.

I think the points been made. Any situation as a female, us men will hit on you. Really its not our fault.

Fuckin' A.

 

[superwoman01]

There's too many differences between what individual women respond to and what individual men read when they see a woman hesitate and/or initially say 'no' to further 'progress.'

E.g., your list...

[1] One girl's 'cheesy' pick up line is another girl's 'witty' pick up line.

[2] Um. This dude had roughly 45 seconds to try and pick you up. The only thing he 'understands' is that he wants to get laid and you're either going to follow him into a dressing room or hit him in the eyeballs with pepperspray.

[3] One girl's 'trying too hard' is another girl's, oh man, see Number 1.

[4] How about Tarot cards? Again, see Number 1.

[5] Why not? The WHOLE atmosphere is screaming "LET'S FUCK!" Cant knock a guy for trying given the logic that follows being in an adult store in the first place.

[6] gavycrav can tell you there are a significant number of chicas in NY who get wet when they hear those words.

See what I mean?

Axe,
I should have clarified that MY list was just my opinion and NOT all the items listed pertained to “The Weird Porn Guy” AND I do see what you mean!
Please do not respond to this with the word FUC*! You always write Fuc* in almost all of your posts! LOL! You make me laugh!

I agree "the world is screaming FUC*!" Ha! And it’s both healthy and the fountain of youth!
I am not knocking the guy for being in the adult store—Geeze I was there to! I guess “The Weird Porn Guy” surprised me by trying to pick me up there! BUT you do have to remember years ago it was so taboo to even be in such a place and now a days people are more comfortable with the idea but I would not expect to make a Match.com connection there!
XO
"fuck me badly once, shame on you, fuck me badly twice, shame on me"

 

[BennyBlanc0]

[5] Why not? The WHOLE atmosphere is screaming "LET'S FUCK!" Cant knock a guy for trying given the logic that follows being in an adult store in the first place.

exactly haha! and also agree with Poini's point lol. Instead of a "weird porn guy", you could have run into a "weird grocery shopping guy" who will joke with you which milk to buy because the one you're drinking is doing a great job! any location is as good location as the next.

I was amazed to see there were actually (maybe) single women at the first porn convention i recently attended. When I told my friend, he said "yah. most go to pick up guys too" and others are lesbian.

 

[Axe]

Axe,
I should have clarified that MY list was just my opinion and NOT all the items listed pertained to “The Weird Porn Guy” AND I do see what you mean!
Please do not respond to this with the word FUC*! You always write Fuc* in almost all of your posts! LOL! You make me laugh!

I agree "the world is screaming FUC*!" Ha! And it’s both healthy and the fountain of youth!
I am not knocking the guy for being in the adult store—Geeze I was there to! I guess “The Weird Porn Guy” surprised me by trying to pick me up there! BUT you do have to remember years ago it was so taboo to even be in such a place and now a days people are more comfortable with the idea but I would not expect to make a Match.com connection there!
XO
"fuck me badly once, shame on you, fuck me badly twice, shame on me"

Oh, I realized your list is a general one. So is mine. lol

Well, SW, if going to an adult store is so normal now, then it shouldnt be a surprise that a guy will try to pick you up there. Somehow, you have internalized a rule: "SW is not sexually available when she's in an adult store shopping for split-crotch panties."

The problem with this, SW, is that if you put yourself in a sexually charged, co-ed location, then you're fair game. Period. I mean, it's like women who habitually wear low cut tops then complain all the time about how guys are always staring at their tits. What do you expect??

What happened really should not have surprised you.

[Please note that I did not use the word "fuck' in this post. Until now.]

 

[fortydog]

Just reading this guys dialog would not lead me to believe he was a weirdo. I guess the setting and body language set off the flags for you.

 

[superwoman01]

Axe dear

Oh, I realized your list is a general one. So is mine. lol

Well, SW, if going to an adult store is so normal now, then it shouldnt be a surprise that a guy will try to pick you up there. Somehow, you have internalized a rule: "SW is not sexually available when she's in an adult store shopping for split-crotch panties."

The problem with this, SW, is that if you put yourself in a sexually charged, co-ed location, then you're fair game. Period. I mean, it's like women who habitually wear low cut tops then complain all the time about how guys are always staring at their tits. What do you expect??

What happened really should not have surprised you.

[Please note that I did not use the word "fuck' in this post. Until now.]

Ok Axe, now you have my panties in a bunch and I may need some assistance! LOL!
Let me know when you are on your way! HA!

Well some of what you just wrote could be taken as a sexism or bias remarks--if I was really a sensitive person. The way a woman dresses or where she is shopping can send out the wrong message? If that was the case then I could become a feminist very fast and then I would say the reason sexism is a ghost of what it once was is not because we have been TOLD to change our attitudes. It is because we have been SHOWN that women are the equals of men. Residual ignorance will linger for a while. To expect otherwise is silly.
The truth be told that People ALL make assumptions based on traits, whether it is sex, race, clothing/accessories, accent, age, the book (or absence of which) the person is holding, and on and on. Some of us have been trained to keep those assumptions close to our chests & others have not. Some of us have had some of our assumptions expunged by experience; others have not. Granted ranting is not the solution. Just because a woman wears a low cut blouse does not mean that she is asking for it! Just because I am shopping in an Adult store does not mean that I am asking to be picked up!
I was wearing a sweater and a pair of jeans. As for the case of "my big boobies" well they were well covered and even though I may have been in an adult store-which may have opened me up to judgement it does not mean that it is an appropriate location to try to pick up a woman! What you wrote could be considered double standards! Reverse the role-would the guy think it is cool for a woman to pick her up in this type of environment? YES Maybe? BUT more than likely he would assume that she was a prov looking for an encounter! UGGGGGGHHHHHH! Would he take her seriously? OR been polite and walked away?

Hey where’s my little cupcake?

 

[Axe]

I dont know where to begin to unwind that verbal ball of twine you just threw at me. None of it is relevant to what I've been saying.

SW, you were in an ADULT STORE. It does not mean you're easy or anything like that.

It only means that MEN - who are horn-dogs in ANY setting - are going to be EVEN MORE charged up and looking for action when they see a woman they're attracted to.

If men will try to pick up women in the vegetable isle of a supermarket (happens all the time), how much more likely is it for the same thing to happen when they're in a store loaded with porn videos and lingerie?

All this means is you should not have been surprised when he tried to pick you up. That's it.

 

[superwoman01]

I dont know where to begin to unwind that verbal ball of twine you just threw at me. None of it is relevant to what I've been saying.

SW, you were in an ADULT STORE. It does not mean you're easy or anything like that.

It only means that MEN - who are horn-dogs in ANY setting - are going to be EVEN MORE charged up and looking for action when they see a woman they're attracted to.

If men will try to pick up women in the vegetable isle of a supermarket (happens all the time), how much more likely is it for the same thing to happen when they're in a store loaded with porn videos and lingerie?

All this means is you should not have been surprised when he tried to pick you up. That's it.

Yes it was a mouthful! ha! Sorry for the rant Axe!

Thanks for everyones feedback on "The Weird Porn Guy"
Have a great weekend!
XXOO

 

[Axe]

Yes it was a mouthful! ha! Sorry for the rant Axe!

Thanks for everyones feedback on "The Weird Porn Guy"
Have a great weekend!
XXOO

What good is this board if you cant rant every now and then? I do it too.

Have a good weekend, SW.

 

[BronxBoy]

Getting back to the OP, at the risk of sounding like a creepy perv myself I've got to give him credit for trying in the first place. Trying to strike up a conversation with an attractive woman takes courage. Being a single guy in the city sucks.

The big "however" is that you've got to read the signals and know when she's not interested. You made it perfectly clear that you weren't and he should've stopped right there.

Good move having the pepper spray ready. Never hesitate to pull it out & protect yourself.

 

[superwoman01]

Getting back to the OP, at the risk of sounding like a creepy perv myself I've got to give him credit for trying in the first place. Trying to strike up a conversation with an attractive woman takes courage. Being a single guy in the city sucks.

The big "however" is that you've got to read the signals and know when she's not interested. You made it perfectly clear that you weren't and he should've stopped right there.

Good move having the pepper spray ready. Never hesitate to pull it out & protect yourself.

Tks..BB & Welcome to UG!
XXOO