As far as Phantom and this thread:
Since I can not get inside his head, I will never know his motives. However, if ( and this is a big if ) he never intended to disclose the provider's name, and did so simply because of the demands made to do so in the course of the thread, it is hard to assign malice towards Sara as a motive ( obviously, we will never know the answer to this, barring an admission from him ).
That notwithstanding, I really don't see what this "story" has to do with much as it pertains to other members. I don't see how it wil change anyone's opinion of her, and as such I find it hard to get excited about the effects on her. Do we think that there were folks who were going to see her right up until the point that they read this, and now will forego seeing her ? I highly doubt that !!!! Was someone else planning on seeing her for 24 hours for $2K who had never seen her before ??? While I highly doubt it, then this "story" is not wasted.
I guess, to some extent, what it boils down to for me is:
1) Do we think that Phantom is lying ? If no, then I don't think there is anything so highly inflamatory in his post which makes his having made it "wrong".
2) Is "Sara" now some "sacred cow" that nothing should even be posted about her ? I personally don't think so. She takes dates, gets booked thru an agency which has her photo on the web, etc.
3) Is Phantom a total innocent here ? Obviously not, but I don't see him jumping up and down claiming to be one, either ( unless I am missing something ).
4) I think cautionary tales are one of the reasons to read "the boards". If anyone learned anything fom this, then it was worthwhile. And i hope at least someone ho had thought about booking an extended visit with someone whom they had never seen before did learn something fo this.
5) Similary, I hope that some will also learn that, as in most "relationships", whatever happened to others will happen to them, and they are being silly when they think, well, I know that happened to him, but I'm different and it won't go that way with me.