PFP- Sexual and or Emotional Fulfillment

[trader1]

Thinking back to early years of mongering, decades ago, PFP was all about the sex, kink, and many choices available. The sessions would be all about sex, multiple pops- anything goes.. Little time for dialogue and letting emotions get involved.

Fast forward to the present, those sessions seem far and few between and I find the emotional connection much more important. I’m usually done after one and will get just as much satisfaction having a connection with the gal -

Wondering how many of you share similar thoughts

 

[billyS]

I do.
In my early days on UG it was all about seeing as many different girls as possible.

Of course there were a few regulars I'd like to repeat frequently, Kathy and Julissia at both 1F and Sanford.
Shy and Seven at XDreams.
But for the most part it was different girls and AMPs all the time.

There was a thrill to seeing that provider open the door to the hotel for the first time or to be lying naked and prone at an unreviewed AMP wondering where the massage would lead.

Even back around 2004 when I settled into seeing Seven once a week at the CMI in East Meadow, and the 2 pop sex was great, I still need to visit 1F and an occasional Amp.

But after having a lengthy 12 year relationship with a married WOC, my hobby needs changed.

Coming back from that hiatus I found I wanted to try to find one person who was reliable who could see once or twice a week and not go thru the hassle of weeding thru the ads and reviews.

Luckily after about two years of searching I found someone who matched what I was looking for physically and as a bonus was low volume and able to host. As an added bonus we share many interests.

It might be an age thing.
After more guys reply to this thread we'll see a pattern emerge.

 

[LISteve]

Now that I am older - when I am traveling I like getting an upper level "mature" escort for like 2 hours where we can get a bottle of wine. The ladies usually stay longer -when away on business I am setting up dates for a Tuesday/Wednesday or Thursday nights - I imagine their slower days and the more mature ladies aren't usually doing multiple dates on one night on say a Wednesday night. This usually means they are more relaxed and more willing to sit, drink and talk. I no longer look for the 20 year old knockout with the great body for short stays. Yeah they look nice but there is usually never any sort of connection. Here on LI - I try to find something convenient. I found a nice girl who is probably mid 30s- lower 40's who I have a connection with at a local Strip Club. I go visit her once every couple of weeks. Plus there is also local AMP where I usually see the same girl. I guess I enjoy the company and that is part of the mongering experience. I can't remember the last time I saw a younger hottie for a quickie. Going to Nashville Monday morning. I have a MILF picked out - I will let you guys know how it went.

 

[Unown]

I use to belong to an alternative lifestyle club located on Long Island. They held weekly meetings, which were very informative. There was one meeting on the subject of "after care". Cuddling after sex might be the subject of late night stand up, but there is some biology for it. After intense sexual activity core body temp drops a bit. That increases the desire for close bodily contact after the act. Which increases bonding.

In my early mongering I was the get in, get it done, and get out. Once I was drained there was no reason to stay, unless I was looking to go again. One day I had a very attractive provider collapse on me in an exhausted heap. As she lay there on me, breathing heavy, she started to twirl the hair on my head. I was hooked. I only saw her. Lucky for me I had a good friend who was a long time monger who looked out for me. He reminded me that while she may truly like me, this was all temporary. This was all brought home one day when I found out she had a husband and this was just a job for her.

Nowadays I still seek out the providers who provide the after care. The cuddling after, the playfulness of a shared joke or experience. The conversation as we lie there and recover. But I never lose sight of the fact that this is what I am paying for. I also make it a point to have a "stable" of at least 3 providers. So I never get attached to any one person.

 

[MassyMan]

At the end of the day these girls are fucking us for money. So the word emotional is funny to read however I have seen that if it seems like they are getting something out of it whether it be them orgasming, they think your hot or they look to you for advice or a shoulder to vent to in hopes of knowledge coming out a fair weather style emotional connection can be had.

im still young and in my mid-30s and after a divorce a couple years ago I just hook up with as many of these women as I can. I seek the thrill more than anything like Billy described well. The adventure and danger aspect of mongering is as addictive as the sex itself. I do find mind self more into getting BBJ than fucking someone. Where is @mugi when you need em? Because he would describe it better than me. For spiritual reasons im very reserved who i fuck, that is as long as im sober and in control. The spiritual ramifications are something I watch out for and sexual transmutation is not the same with oral as it is with our passage way down below. If there is some type of emotional connection there is always sex involved I have found, it almost calls for it.

 

[billyS]

At the end of the day these girls are fucking us for money. So the word emotional is funny to read however I have seen that if it seems like they are getting something out of it whether it be them orgasming, they think your hot or they look to you for advice or a shoulder to vent to in hopes of knowledge coming out a fair weather style emotional connection can be had.

im still young and in my mid-30s and after a divorce a couple years ago I just hook up with as many of these women as I can. I seek the thrill more than anything like Billy described well. The adventure and danger aspect of mongering is as addictive as the sex itself. I do find mind self more into getting BBJ than fucking someone. Where is @mugi when you need em? Because he would describe it better than me. For spiritual reasons im very reserved who i fuck, that is as long as im sober and in control. The spiritual ramifications are something I watch out for and sexual transmutation is not the same with oral as it is with our passage way down below. If there is some type of emotional connection there is always sex involved I have found, it almost calls for it.

The thrill thing was especially true for street walkers.
I remember at one point around say 2004 saying to myself I'd never risk a SW again.

But there I was sitting at the light of Cathedral and Hempstead turnpike and seeing a petite WOC in a black leather mini skirt and a blonde wig across the street and my heart rate rose and my dick started tingling and filling with blood.

Of course 10 minutes later I was sitting on a side street in Garden City with my pants around my ankles and her sucking my cock.

The fact that some Karen was approaching walking her dog made the orgasm all that more intense.

 

[trader1]

The thrill thing was especially true for street walkers.
I remember at one point around say 2004 saying to myself I'd never risk a SW again.

But there I was sitting at the light of Cathedral and Hempstead turnpike and seeing a petite WOC in a black leather mini skirt and a blonde wig across the street and my heart rate rose and my dick started tingling and filling with blood.

Of course 10 minutes later I was sitting on a side street in Garden City with my pants around my ankles and her sucking my cock.

The fact that some Karen was approaching walking her dog made the orgasm all that more intense.

The intense orgasms are just that.. intense, lost a bit and then… nothing.. move on to the next conquest.
The emotional fulfillment, memory and thought(s) of being or seeing someone again who satisfies this for me, is very high on my list

 

[steveoo1970]

The best chicks to see are the ones who love to have fun!! Or at least give the appearance that they’re having as much fun as you are.

Like HS/College teen fucking. Girly Giggles and squeals. Blow jobs with intent. Grabbing ass. Grinding and Pounding like animals. And busting a nut like never before , while she squirts all over you.

And when it’s done, we both throw our cloths back on and she rushes me out the door like her fathers coming home wanting to kill me .

Those are the best fucks. Those are the best providers. No emotion. Just fun. An emotional provider can be cool also. But I feel like they’re being lustful so you want to come back for more . But for the most part I don’t want to come back for more . I’m a one and done guy (for the most part , unless desperate).

Fun fucking , blowing a few loads and walking out with a grin from ear to ear is the best experience.

No emotion needed……..

 

[Jaxxny]

Fast forward to the present, those sessions seem far and few between and I find the emotional connection much more important. I’m usually done after one and will get just as much satisfaction having a connection with the gal -

Wondering how many of you share similar thoughts

Mostly similar demisexual thoughts.
https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-demisexual-demisexuality

Demisexual people only feel sexually attracted to someone when they have an emotional bond with the person.

 

[Excitable Boy]

Things have changed so much through the years. I mentioned in a long ago post, I lost my virginity in a San Juan brothel and that experience influenced my massage parlor visits during my college days years later. In the late 70’s, the parlors in CT had women of all nationalities except asians. Back then, you could find ads buried in the classifieds or the sports sections of local newspapers.There was one spot in Milford called Leisure Time Spa and the gal that I saw was one of the top three hottest women I have ever been with. At the same time, I was introduced to an amazing brothel that for $60 for the hour, you had a choice of a few milf types that were always attractive. I graduated from college in 1981 and took positions in DC and Columbus, OH before returning to CT in the mid 80’s. It was at that time at least 15 amps opened from Greenwich to New Haven. There was not an establishment that I didn’t try at least once and established connections with numerous K-gals. The excitement of experiencing new ladies while at the same time having an emotional connection with those I would see regularly, satisfied a crazed libido of a twenty something guy. I had girlfriends as well and was fearful that I would be caught feeding my addiction.

 

[Flintfred]

I do.
In my early days on UG it was all about seeing as many different girls as possible.

Of course there were a few regulars I'd like to repeat frequently, Kathy and Julissia at both 1F and Sanford.
Shy and Seven at XDreams.
But for the most part it was different girls and AMPs all the time.

There was a thrill to seeing that provider open the door to the hotel for the first time or to be lying naked and prone at an unreviewed AMP wondering where the massage would lead.

Even back around 2004 when I settled into seeing Seven once a week at the CMI in East Meadow, and the 2 pop sex was great, I still need to visit 1F and an occasional Amp.

But after having a lengthy 12 year relationship with a married WOC, my hobby needs changed.

Coming back from that hiatus I found I wanted to try to find one person who was reliable who could see once or twice a week and not go thru the hassle of weeding thru the ads and reviews.

Luckily after about two years of searching I found someone who matched what I was looking for physically and as a bonus was low volume and able to host. As an added bonus we share many interests.

It might be an age thing.
After more guys reply to this thread we'll see a pattern emerge.

Same for me - in the early days it was trying to get as many different girls as possible. And I love the the thrill of going to a new place and not knowing what to expect. Even though I could have gone someplace that was a sure thing, there was always the thrill of not knowing what would happen. Especially places where it initially felt like there would be no sex, and then turned into sex. Something about that feeling. . . .

Now I tend to monger when I’m bored…. To get some variety, and just change things up. I try not to get emotionally involved and definitely don’t want / need the girl to get emotionally involved. I feel like that could turn into an ugly situation given that I have an SO.

 

[Smartie101]

Mostly similar demisexual thoughts.
https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-demisexual-demisexuality

This is me. And why I only partake sporadically over the years. I also need some natural interaction to work with it. I don’t have a game or an act… and I can’t work with someone elses if it’s not from a genuine place. Which are items that work against mongering, mostly. I live in that dissonance… looking for when things align.

 

[trader1]

Mostly similar demisexual thoughts.
https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-demisexual-demisexuality

I do not fall into this category, but I look for some connection nowadays ( conversation at least about something intelligent) …

as for sexual attraction- the wind can blow and hard— does not take much

 

[justme]

I’ve never been certain what was crazier: my pursuit of deep emotional connections with sexworkers or how often I found them.

 

[OSMonger]

Things have changed so much through the years. I mentioned in a long ago post, I lost my virginity in a San Juan brothel and that experience influenced my massage parlor visits during my college days years later. In the late 70’s, the parlors in CT had women of all nationalities except asians. Back then, you could find ads buried in the classifieds or the sports sections of local newspapers.There was one spot in Milford called Leisure Time Spa and the gal that I saw was one of the top three hottest women I have ever been with. At the same time, I was introduced to an amazing brothel that for $60 for the hour, you had a choice of a few milf types that were always attractive. I graduated from college in 1981 and took positions in DC and Columbus, OH before returning to CT in the mid 80’s. It was at that time at least 15 amps opened from Greenwich to New Haven. There was not an establishment that I didn’t try at least once and established connections with numerous K-gals. The excitement of experiencing new ladies while at the same time having an emotional connection with those I would see regularly, satisfied a crazed libido of a twenty something guy. I had girlfriends as well and was fearful that I would be caught feeding my addiction.

Love to swap stories about the good ole days in Bridgeport and Fairfield. Yoko and Oriental, American Spa and Hawaiian. So many places, all having their own special touch. Oh what a misspent youth!!

 

[OSMonger]

I don’t think I’m int he same place as many of you. Although I’ve been in the lifestyle for 30+ years now, I have enough emotions to deal with between the women in my life. I don’t want any bullshit. I want a provider that’s going to treat me like the King, all the attention is on me, and making me feel like I’m important. Because that’s obviously what I’m missing in the real world. I don’t need to feel loved, I just want to feel like I’m the only person that exists in that moment and the provider wants to make that time special.
And hats off to @angeliquelaroux who may be one of the greatest providers at doing that. From the moment you enter until you’re gone, only you exist in the world. That’s special and that’s what I look for.

 

[NINE-LIVES]

This is me. And why I only partake sporadically over the years. I also need some natural interaction to work with it. I don’t have a game or an act… and I can’t work with someone elses if it’s not from a genuine place. Which are items that work against mongering, mostly. I live in that dissonance… looking for when things align.

Look into the term "Sapiosexual" The need for an emotional connection, before a physical one. Fuck my mind, then my body approach.

 

[Jaxxny]

I’ve never been certain what was crazier: my pursuit of deep emotional connections with sexworkers or how often I found them.

When you learn that MMS is a closer. Closer -- in a baseball pitcher sense of closer or a salesmanager sense -- for regular customers.

I don't know how to classify the satisfaction of grudgefucking when you haven't quite made up after a fight.
When AMP/spa mamasan repeatedly hypes 'new girl' and new girl dissapoints followed by

'She good ?'
'No'
then a coy, reluctant-sounding, 'OK, I do for you.'

 

[justme]

When you learn that MMS is a closer. Closer -- in a baseball pitcher sense of closer or a salesmanager sense -- for regular customers.

I don't know how to classify the satisfaction of grudgefucking when you haven't quite made up after a fight.
When AMP/spa mamasan repeatedly hypes 'new girl' and new girl dissapoints followed by

'She good ?'
'No'
then a coy, reluctant-sounding, 'OK, I do for you.'

I had a great relationship with a prostitute turned mama. Every time I’d drop by, it was a struggle to decide between taking the unknown with usually younger and prettier girl or insisting that she work. On her side, she was usually playfully annoyed when i refused the girls she was trying to direct me to.

 

[Chilidawg2]

The thrill thing was especially true for street walkers.
I remember at one point around say 2004 saying to myself I'd never risk a SW again.

But there I was sitting at the light of Cathedral and Hempstead turnpike and seeing a petite WOC in a black leather mini skirt and a blonde wig across the street and my heart rate rose and my dick started tingling and filling with blood.

Of course 10 minutes later I was sitting on a side street in Garden City with my pants around my ankles and her sucking my cock.

The fact that some Karen was approaching walking her dog made the orgasm all that more intense.

WOC Streetwalkers always get me.....