Looking for advice/sharing my thoughts

#1
Basically I'm a decent looking late 20s with some pretty terrible social skills/social anxiety. That added to the potential risk has me second guessing the hobby. As a healthy male I obviously have needs, tough for me to meet women with the anxiety and poor social skills. I already have someone in mind and got vetted a year or two ago. She reached out, I said I would get in touch when it was a better time for me but I never did. It still isn't a better time really but I feel like if my needs don't get dealt with relatively soon I might run head first into a brick wall.(not really). It's been three years since....and I'm really not even as experienced as someone my age should be. Which adds to the social anxiety on the rare occasion I do go out and see attractive chicks who seem into me. "You're just gonna make a fool of yourself why bother, if you manage to woo her you're just gonna embarrass your self so why bother" type thoughts. I feel like a pressure free environment to work on my skills and release stress and fulfil my needs is the healthiest approach. Does that make sense to anyone else? Unfortunately I can't send private messages, there is one person I'd like to speak with privately, I've seen him comment and review every credible provider in my area. Which actually makes me feel better knowing people do this often and aside from taking a risk here and there for a new experience they remain anonymous and out of trouble. Anyway I guess if anyone feels like sharing their first experience and what you would have done differently, what you wished you would have done, maybe help convince me to make an appointment I'd appreciate it.

Sorry if I broke any rules, I hope I didn't because this took a while to write and now i have to proof read it. Thanks for reading.
 
#3
Basically I'm a decent looking late 20s with some pretty terrible social skills/social anxiety. That added to the potential risk has me second guessing the hobby. As a healthy male I obviously have needs, tough for me to meet women with the anxiety and poor social skills. I already have someone in mind and got vetted a year or two ago. She reached out, I said I would get in touch when it was a better time for me but I never did. It still isn't a better time really but I feel like if my needs don't get dealt with relatively soon I might run head first into a brick wall.(not really). It's been three years since....and I'm really not even as experienced as someone my age should be. Which adds to the social anxiety on the rare occasion I do go out and see attractive chicks who seem into me. "You're just gonna make a fool of yourself why bother, if you manage to woo her you're just gonna embarrass your self so why bother" type thoughts. I feel like a pressure free environment to work on my skills and release stress and fulfil my needs is the healthiest approach. Does that make sense to anyone else? Unfortunately I can't send private messages, there is one person I'd like to speak with privately, I've seen him comment and review every credible provider in my area. Which actually makes me feel better knowing people do this often and aside from taking a risk here and there for a new experience they remain anonymous and out of trouble. Anyway I guess if anyone feels like sharing their first experience and what you would have done differently, what you wished you would have done, maybe help convince me to make an appointment I'd appreciate it.

Sorry if I broke any rules, I hope I didn't because this took a while to write and now i have to proof read it. Thanks for reading.
You joined over 2 years ago kiddo. You've found nothing here in 2 years that's helped you ease into the lifestyle? I find that pretty surprising. I'm almost sure there's a thread here that is dedicated to first time experiences, be them, massage parlors, street walkers, or escorts...
I know I've shared my first experience with each right here (best site in the world) somewhere. Good luck finding your niche, I've been doing this over 30 years, and I'm still trying to find mine!
 
#4
Your approach makes sense to me. When you pay a provider, there's comfort knowing she's a sure thing. You can relax and be yourself with her because she won't give a shit if you're awkward. Look for ladies who have reputations for being easy-going and warm, not just who's best in the sack (they'll all make you cum).

Just keep emotions in check. The right provider can help build your confidence and might even genuinely like you, so it's easy to develop feelings. Remember it's still a transaction, like your favorite deli - they're nice to you and want you to enjoy your sandwich but they're in the friendly sandwich business.
 
#7
You can work on your game at strip joints. The girls will come and talk to you. Yes they want your money and lap dances ... but you will get plenty of practice talking to girls. Strip joints aren't good places to go to get laid but is a good place for practicing talking to girls. Sophia Belle would be good to practice sex with I guess. I have never had the pleasure but she certainly seems nice.
 
#8
Hey man I was on the same boat. Im around the same age as you. I actually think hobbying made me break the cycle of uncomfortableness I had with women. I mean I had no type of game, couldnt take hints and genuinely all around no hope.

So dont sweat it. Through hobbying I have learned it just pussy. Dont get me wrong some of the women I have seen hobbying have been the best I ever had bit besideds that there is no outside connection. (Except for 1 that I actually became friends with but that is a different story).

Eventually relazing I could get pussy while hobbying made me at ease with talking to girls. Knowing I always could get it whenever I wanted made it easier for me to talk and approach girls. I didint feel the pressure of "oh man dont screw up or I wont get laid" because of this hobby.

I just learned women are regular people like men and you realize not to put to much thought into it. By no means am I saying you are going to have the same results I did. But I am letting you know you are not by yourself in the situation you are in.

Be safe while hobbying, explore, get experience and more importantly just have fun. Because at the end of the day you are paying for their time. You, I and everybody in this board know why you are seeing a provider.
 
#9
Second time I had to edit out a certain subject in one of your posts. Please be more careful in controlling where your thoughts wander in these stream of consciousness type posts. Maybe try to avoid your teen years.
Coming out of teens and into early 20's, after high school and during my education and early work experience, because of dedication to education and work and no money and social weaknesses and low self-confidence, I did not touch a woman for 4 years. Hoping to get back into action, I went to an AMP and it was awkward. I forget how to do it - completely. The girl, maybe a couple of years older than me, sensed my nervousness and guided me along and coached me. I got so excited, though, I started cumming and squirting prior to ever even putting the condom on. But she was nice and embraced me and laughed and was all smiles and encouraged me to come back. Sweet girl. But that one time got the jitters out. But, these girls can be fine, used correctly to improve your game and confidence. Good luck, young man. Just a little practice and patience.
 
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#12
How awkward are you really? There's a lid for every pot. Get on tinder, match, pof etc, and start going on dates as practice. The more you do it, the better you'll get.
Pretty awkward, my conversation skills are pretty shitty. Never have anything to talk about, I don't keep up with current events, don't like talking about myself. More often than not I have no idea how to even respond to shit.
I'm on tinder I just rarely swipe, when I do match I tend to just not message anyone, when I do it dies out pretty quick.
 
#13
You joined over 2 years ago kiddo. You've found nothing here in 2 years that's helped you ease into the lifestyle? I find that pretty surprising. I'm almost sure there's a thread here that is dedicated to first time experiences, be them, massage parlors, street walkers, or escorts...
I know I've shared my first experience with each right here (best site in the world) somewhere. Good luck finding your niche, I've been doing this over 30 years, and I'm still trying to find mine!
I quickly found Sophia,(didn't think it was okay to say who so I left her name out of the Post) just filled out details on her website she reached out a few days later, I said I'd be in touch at some point. Its been 2 years. When I have time and extra funds I second guess it and when I don't I obviously don't think about it. Haven't been on here much in the last two years, never been great at navigating forum sites either. So aside from reading some reviews this is as deep as I got into it.
 
#14
Suggest you consider
Sophia Belle 919-888-7318
Check her thread. She seems like the ideal person to help you develop some confidence in a no pressure situation.
Yeah she was actually the one I eluded to in my post. Wasn't sure if it was okay to name drop tho. Didn't take long for me to realise she seems to be the most reputable and respected on here. Thanks for the suggestion.
 
#16
Basically I'm a decent looking late 20s with some pretty terrible social skills/social anxiety. That added to the potential risk has me second guessing the hobby. As a healthy male I obviously have needs, tough for me to meet women with the anxiety and poor social skills. I already have someone in mind and got vetted a year or two ago. She reached out, I said I would get in touch when it was a better time for me but I never did. It still isn't a better time really but I feel like if my needs don't get dealt with relatively soon I might run head first into a brick wall.(not really). It's been three years since....and I'm really not even as experienced as someone my age should be. Which adds to the social anxiety on the rare occasion I do go out and see attractive chicks who seem into me. "You're just gonna make a fool of yourself why bother, if you manage to woo her you're just gonna embarrass your self so why bother" type thoughts. I feel like a pressure free environment to work on my skills and release stress and fulfil my needs is the healthiest approach. Does that make sense to anyone else? Unfortunately I can't send private messages, there is one person I'd like to speak with privately, I've seen him comment and review every credible provider in my area. Which actually makes me feel better knowing people do this often and aside from taking a risk here and there for a new experience they remain anonymous and out of trouble. Anyway I guess if anyone feels like sharing their first experience and what you would have done differently, what you wished you would have done, maybe help convince me to make an appointment I'd appreciate it.

Sorry if I broke any rules, I hope I didn't because this took a while to write and now i have to proof read it. Thanks for reading.
Hey man, keep asking girls out. The girl, no matter her reaction to it, will feel flattered. You will feel better, because you tried to get what you need. Every guy who ever put on a pair of pants has gotten turned down by a girl. Join the club of real men of courage. Stay thirsty my friend, and I am rooting for you.

Of course there are providers, who will help you through(wink wink), but keep trying.
 
#17
Pretty awkward, my conversation skills are pretty shitty. Never have anything to talk about, I don't keep up with current events, don't like talking about myself. More often than not I have no idea how to even respond to shit.
I'm on tinder I just rarely swipe, when I do match I tend to just not message anyone, when I do it dies out pretty quick.
I used to be a conversational void except with my direct friends. Figured for some reason what I was interested in wasn't interesting to others and then flustered on trying to figure out what others were interested in and responding. And the more I thought that the more I thought it. It became circular. One day I was with a friend as he was talking to one of our professors of course I wasn't. Blew my mind I'd been such an idiot. Changed me that day right there on the spot. Took a while for me to figure out what I could say or not which I found out was pretty much anything. Duh. Looking back don't know what lead me to such silliness. Being on SA let me hone things by lots. Now I'm really comfortable and can't shut me up I guess. Work at it. For now make her the focus and try to things of things to say to her and especially respond to things she says in some detail. Next thing you know it's all just flowing. Practice makes perfect. Not trying just leaves a long shot.
 
#18
I agree if you want to "practice intimacy" Sophia is probably your best bet. If she's a little out of your price range Amanda (phone begins 646-606, reviewed here) would be my next bet.

If you have only a small range of interests there is still some dating site for you out there. I met my ex GF on a punk rock dating site. We had something in common to talk about immediately.
 
#19
Hmm I have a similar issue. I don't outwardly have any anxiety, but I have a lot of issues with relationships. I'm in my mid-20s but due to some things that happened when I was younger, I have had issues with trust and troubles with talking with girls outside of a casual enviornment. The hobby has been safe for me since everything is basically just an exchange, but even then I have issues with talking with the provider at times. I can hit up a casual conversation, but I don't know how to strike up an intimate conversation or anything like that. I've had a very boring night life, and I get anxiety at times when I think about things like that.
In the end, I think it's just me being too passive, but I'm not entirely sure how to resolve it... I guess what I'm trying to say is, it's pretty normal, and the hobbying is pretty helpful. I'm not as much of a tool anymore in front of hot women, and I can get a handle on my hormomes.
 
#20
The Cliff Notes version which worked for me was to go with a cheat sheet the first few times so you have some talking points and rehearse when you're in the car alone whatever and then just go for it when you're out no matter the feelings of anxiety and although you won't get it perfect the first few times so long as you relax it flows and the next thing you know all your dreams come true and you live happily ever after with a bonus of 2 hour blowjobs!
 
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