As a newbie to the board monger wise, but no stranger to making bad decisions with women, I am going to share one of my many tales of woe.
So I work a corporate job, always have. My alter ego is nightlife entertainment (clubs/bars/weddings), and chances are if you live on LI and frequent the larger clubs you have seen me perform. Clearly the amount of women of all ages that are available is absurd, and being married to a very smart woman (nothing gets by her), the temptation has to be tempered with the requisite safeguards. Here's my issue, my wife is a gorgeous size 4 and asshole that I am, I have a thing for dark haired broads with thick round asses with meat on them. It's my kryptonite, what can I say LOL! Anyway I wind up involved with a girl in her early 20's for almost 5 years (I am twice her age mind you). This girl showed up at every one of my events, even helped with the administrative side with pics, social media and the like. So over that time I basically had a second life and second relationship with her. Definitely in love with each other, went on dates, did all holidays on own on special days, etc. and had more sex with her of all kinds and all fetishes than with my wife. My wife and kids would go away and I would make sure I had events booked so we had 100% full time for those days, and so on - it was 100% a full time relationship while I was married. Well needless to say it got messy, she wanted me to leave my wife - and I will admit there were instances that I was close to doing just that. But then she went to a friends wedding on her own and boy did things change. She laid the hammer down on me, left me because she "wanted that with me". I started noticing shifts in her behaviors, and found out she was getting benzos from her dr. and over using it - sometimes 2-3 a day on a daily basis. She was drinking more, smoking weed more (none of which I am against in moderation mind you), but the behaviors became untenable to not only me but to her friends...of which she has very few. In fact if you google the behaviors of someone who mixes pills, weed and booze, you will see exactly how she acted.
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It was not pretty. There were some epic brawls, meltdowns, she would accost other women at my events who were simply minding their own business and having a good time. She acted like a child, and it was not good.
Next she started accusing me of sleeping arounds and cheating, which for the first time in my life I wasn't, save for having the every so often bang of my wife so I didn't wind up living in a basement apartment alone. But that's my wife. To prove my innocence I gave her ALL my passwords to all my social media so she can see what was what. Didn't matter, and the behaviors got worse and worse, so we stopped seeing each other early this year and I haven't had contact with her since. Blocked her everywhere because she was harassing me with bitter mean messages. To top it off, I find out SHE stepped out on me in the waning days of the relationship, all of which blew up in her face. I can say that while I miss her, I am damn glad I didn't blow up my life for her. Those behaviors would have reared their head soon enough and then I'd be back to square one. My sadness is truly based on missing the way things were, not missing that monster she became. Very painful stuff, but it is in the past now thankfully.
Now I know this thread was really about letting the provider into one's real life, but what started out as my Civilian turned into someone who was totally wrapped in my life. Hell she even met my kids at events, introduced her to my mom (Her reaction was "How long has she been your girlfriend"?) and I thought the results of said relationship, and letting her into my life applied. Plus I wanted to contribute constructively until I post my first review, which should be soon. Hopefully you found it to be a good read. Carry on fellow Mongers.
