How to procure extras in strip-clubs...

#1
The current status of most strip-clubs where dancers are providing extras has become so toxic in the NY/CT/NJ/PA area from it having become an arena where everyone is trying to get over on everyone else that I can suggest only one viable method for the best chance to have a good time in a strip-club if you are looking for extras. While this advice may seem slightly counter intuitive it is the best way to TCB in S-C's. Do NOT have an agenda when walking into the club other than having a good time. Yes, you want sex but if you are actively looking for it, especially if it can be easily discerned how you are looking for it is "as cheap as you can get it", even if you find it you won't like it. At least not enough to make nickel and dime'ing worthwhile. I'm not saying overpay. I am saying don't come off "custie" [dancers hate that, every sex worker hates that] by being an obvious "sex me up on the cheap" bozo.

When everyone is "out for blood" and your attitude is, "I'm not here to get over, I'm just about having a good time" while presenting yourself as knowing and no target for manipulation yourself the overall effect is: "I'm not going to try and get over on you. You aren't going to be able to get over on me. If you want to do something that makes us both happy [in different ways, obviously} and have a good time doing it by all means lets do that."

This kind of "no agenda" approach works. At least it does for me. So the next time you go into a strip-club looking to make Mr Happy live up to his name, don't go looking to get the most for the least. Just go looking to have a good time, the right "partner in crime" will have the best chance of finding you that way, and then have fun. Then because you know up from down and the value of a good time, pay her what it is actually worth and tip her if she went above and beyond.

Yeah, you might have spent a small fraction more than your friend but you will have had a better time.
 
#2
"Penny wise and pound foolish"
I can't help but think it when I read a review along the lines of "...negotiated and saved $10.... She gave lousy service".
I always wonder how much better that BJ might have been for only $10 more? Imagine 20?
 

pokler

Power Bottom
#3
The current status of most strip-clubs where dancers are providing extras has become so toxic in the NY/CT/NJ/PA area from it having become an arena where everyone is trying to get over on everyone else that I can suggest only one viable method for the best chance to have a good time in a strip-club if you are looking for extras. While this advice may seem slightly counter intuitive it is the best way to TCB in S-C's. Do NOT have an agenda when walking into the club other than having a good time. Yes, you want sex but if you are actively looking for it, especially if it can be easily discerned how you are looking for it is "as cheap as you can get it", even if you find it you won't like it. At least not enough to make nickel and dime'ing worthwhile. I'm not saying overpay. I am saying don't come off "custie" [dancers hate that, every sex worker hates that] by being an obvious "sex me up on the cheap" bozo.

When everyone is "out for blood" and your attitude is, "I'm not here to get over, I'm just about having a good time" while presenting yourself as knowing and no target for manipulation yourself the overall effect is: "I'm not going to try and get over on you. You aren't going to be able to get over on me. If you want to do something that makes us both happy [in different ways, obviously} and have a good time doing it by all means lets do that."

This kind of "no agenda" approach works. At least it does for me. So the next time you go into a strip-club looking to make Mr Happy live up to his name, don't go looking to get the most for the least. Just go looking to have a good time, the right "partner in crime" will have the best chance of finding you that way, and then have fun. Then because you know up from down and the value of a good time, pay her what it is actually worth and tip her if she went above and beyond.

Yeah, you might have spent a small fraction more than your friend but you will have had a better time.
And then pay $700 for champagne room.
 
#4
......Do NOT have an agenda when walking into the club other than having a good time. Yes, you want sex but if you are actively looking for it, especially if it can be easily discerned how you are looking for it .......
Hey Thorn - haven't heard from you in a while. I always enjoyed your posts.

Good advice.

I would like to modify your advice for different situations:
Asian Services: When I call I ask for the price. Its always $140 to 160 for the half. I say “ I would really like to see the young lady and am sure she is worth it but I only have 100 to spend". Never been turned down and when I get to the room I make it clear to the girl (money in hand) what I expect and once the money is paid to the girl she puts it away and then goes into the escort “please the customer” mode. Never had an upsell and only walked out perhaps 10% of the time (before paying and usually on no kissing or bbbj). Once the price has been determined with the agency, later calls only involve "I would like a half hour for $100".

This does not work with Latina, or white independents. I do not see Latina, or white independents anymore as even after services are agreed upon I don't like the constant upsell.

SWs - always low ball and when they agree to the specifics I say "listen do a good job and I throw in an extra 10 when we are done".

As far as $200- 300 escorts, although I do have the wealth I don’t have the ability to hide the cash flow from my SO for the amount of weekly services I desire.


BTW, during my dating days a while back (just to give you an idea how long ago that was - the personals were an ad placed in the paper Newsday - there was no internet and it was not uncommon to get 50 responses - handwritten letters and most of the time with a pic.) your advice also worked well for that. My 1st dates were always with no expectation of anything other than a pleasant evening (or as you put it to have a good time.) Doesn’t mean I never got sex on 1st date (happened about 50% of the time) but I only pursued it if I got clear signals from the lady. If I didn't get sex - well I had a good time. 2nd date was 90% and third date 95% (the remaining 5% were cut from my list after that ).
I would be seeing 2 or 3 women at a time, cutting the least interesting one when I found someone that interested me more.
 
#5
Strip Clubs has always been my worth bang for the buck. I fell prey as usually to Rick's on 33 Street. What the dancer promised me would be an amazing VIP (she was aggressive not very hot 7.5 with no cloth), was a Lap dance with permission to give myself a HJ. I don't think this an atypical example. Damage - Entrance and coat check fee, drinks with girls, lap dances, 30 minutes in VIP, drinks in VIP, tip vip bouncer, tip dancer - I lost track after $500, I use $500 to make myself feel better, properly 50% higher.
 
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