How do you guys stop?

I'm curious whether anyone else has found smoking weed to be a trigger. If I have weed in the house, vape and it isn't too late, I'm highly likely to go looking for someone. It also lowers my inhibitions with whomever I end up seeing. I've also given up weed over the last several weeks.
It’s never too late for me. I can even drive out at 4am if my regular calls
 
I'm curious whether anyone else has found smoking weed to be a trigger. If I have weed in the house, vape and it isn't too late, I'm highly likely to go looking for someone. It also lowers my inhibitions with whomever I end up seeing. I've also given up weed over the last several weeks.
Triggers vary per person.

A big part of beating an addiction is recognizing what triggers the behavior in the first place. It seems like you have done that. If you don't want to see providers as much, maybe you should strongly consider smoking less weed or giving it up all together.
 
Sounds like a true American!! :)
Better yet, make those unsecured loans tax debt.
I respectfully disagree in that "men feel lonely and have to seek pros..." Comfort and intimacy always requires one to give something back, especially one's time and emotional labor. Pros fill that void for me in a marriage that nothing else has been able to do, including alcohol, meds, hobbies.
It's when the paid intimacy attempts to cross boundaries---that's when the fantasy falls apart.
I agree that one always has to give something back and, in a paid relationship, something beyond the money. When you talk about crossing boundaries, do you mean marrying a provider or deluding yourself that she's somehow your girlfriend even as she continues to work? My experience has been that it's a delicate balance with providers. One does more to let them know that you appreciate and care about them but not enough to give them hope of a permanent arrangement, unless you're prepared to fully support them.
 
I respectfully disagree in that "men feel lonely and have to seek pros..." Comfort and intimacy always requires one to give something back, especially one's time and emotional labor. Pros fill that void for me in a marriage that nothing else has been able to do, including alcohol, meds, hobbies........
Or maybe it is because of after 200,000 years of evolution you have an ingrained need to spread your seed around as much as possible while still realizing that the mama of you children is back in the cave and if you want them to survive you need to bring back some supplies and while you are there a grateful mama does what it takes to keep you happy.
 
Or maybe it is because of after 200,000 years of evolution you have an ingrained need to spread your seed around as much as possible while still realizing that the mama of you children is back in the cave and if you want them to survive you need to bring back some supplies and while you are there a grateful mama does what it takes to keep you happy.
Which brings up a good point by GENIUS, "Or maybe it is because of after 200,000 years of evolution you have an ingrained need to spread your seed." Meaning, it is not really a personal addiction but rather an inherited addiction that remains in the collective unconscious mind that is operating through us and a 200,000 year addiction packs quite a punch compared to a recently acquired personal addiction.
 
Sex is a natural desire. Those who don't need it and want it all the time,like is, are the mentally ill ones. We r normal and working as programmed.
Drug addicts are killing themselves with poison, completely different.
Irony is our desire for sex is often fullfied using drug addicts who need the money for more drugs.
Without drug addicts there would be a lot less pussy to buy
 
Sex is a natural desire. Those who don't need it and want it all the time,like is, are the mentally ill ones. We r normal and working as programmed.
Drug addicts are killing themselves with poison, completely different.
Irony is our desire for sex is often fullfied using drug addicts who need the money for more drugs.
Without drug addicts there would be a lot less pussy to buy
When the Crack epidemic hit the scene back in the 80's there was so much ass that hit the streets...like a candy store...good looking young women..but their good looks were brief...after just a few weeks in the street...and being on that shit...the same attractive young ladies were hardly recognizable. Their faces full of acne. Their bodies became scrawny. It was fucked up.
 
ha-ha-ha ...Freud, Socrates and Plato all overlooked that one ... and you are actually right. Who in their right mind would eat, sleep or perform sex while holding back a massive dump. Inconceivable. So, dump trumps eating, sleeping and sex. But what about self-survival? For example, running from a hungry grizzly bear in the Pokonos????? Well, its a tie. You'll be running and dumping simultaneously.

PS. But in all honesty from a philosopher's point of view, dumping is technically intertwined with eating but you did make me double over in laughter with that observation. Thank you. It was a serious day and I really needed that one.
 
ha-ha-ha ...Freud, Socrates and Plato all overlooked that one ... and you are actually right. Who in their right mind would eat, sleep or perform sex while holding back a massive dump. Inconceivable. So, dump trumps eating, sleeping and sex. But what about self-survival? For example, running from a hungry grizzly bear in the Pokonos????? Well, its a tie. You'll be running and dumping simultaneously.

PS. But in all honesty from a philosopher's point of view, dumping is technically intertwined with eating but you did make me double over in laughter with that observation. Thank you. It was a serious day and I really needed that one.
Leave it to Pokler to get to the bottom of an issue, lol. I remember a psych class in college, back in the dark ages, where some psychotic prof was was waxing (and waning) on about human needs and mother fixation and infant imprinting and other psycho babble crap. The statement that resulted in me cutting the class for most of the semester was "an infant empties its bowels in order to please its mother and receive the mother's praise". Damn. And I thought it was because it needed to take a dump.
 
All of you geniuses are deliberating on which human needs come first. But no one has mentioned the one needs which Trumps all. Food , sleep , sex , you name it ..

That need ? TAKING A DUMP !
Very true. Nothing stops you in your tracks and rearranges your entire schedule like having to drop a deuce. And they call this a civilization
 
All of you geniuses are deliberating on which human needs come first. But no one has mentioned the one needs which Trumps all. Food , sleep , sex , you name it ..

That need ? TAKING A DUMP !
Finally some sense in this thread. Jk.

I have a close friend, who has serious medical conditions, so he has been on a lot of pills most of his life. His stomach lining is gone. He's in his late 30s and has horrible bladder control. Shits his pants at least once a week. I told him to start wearing adult diapers, but he says he has too much "pride". I say, "it's better than walking around with shit stained underwear".
 

Camant1997

The next time I whine will be my last
Speaking for myself. I've been just doing the r&t places lately and not as often as I used to.
I just haven't had the urge to go to a provider. And my car date days are over now. Too many bad things can happen.
As much as I've enjoyed lucys in Centereach. There on borrowed time Imo.
I don't want to be there when the shit hits the fan.

I'm not saying that I'm done, just slowing my roll.
I have visited twice, and have a lot to loose. But the thrill and how fresh the experience is gets me off. But I dont want to be the one wearing bracelets. You think It may not last for both locations?
 

Camant1997

The next time I whine will be my last
Here’s my two cents - I don’t know how anyone stops, me included. I get so angry sometimes and swear I’m done with the business and done with UG and done with people... but it’s like an addiction. You can’t help but wonder what happens next. And ultimately, nothing is as fun as sex or as natural. So enjoy it.
For me. I have not been with many women. And dont get me wrong I love my SO, but I have been curious about how I perform, what does it feel like, does it all feel the same. Idk but financially its becoming a problem.....but I want more rrrrr
 

Camant1997

The next time I whine will be my last
Certainly sex addition is real. We can feel trapped, frustrated, bored and give up to our temptation for the quick fix. We can use independent hos, porn, or AMP visits to get that thrill and sooth the itch. We are weak, and can usually feel the guilt, no matter how well it went. I stopped for many years. I just wanted to be faithful when I got married. Porn always stayed with me, but I hadn't touched another woman until about 6 months ago. Now I need to fight the constant urge and weight on my mind. It is distracting, and I am dropping the ball on things I need to do. I found a provider who is awesome and I just think about her all the time. If I can keep this thing to maybe once a month, it might be OK, I am thinking. But, it hasn't been. If she is resting or unavailable, I run out to dip my stick somewhere else. I feel like I am getting in trouble with our hobby. Yikes, I gotta get it under control again.
Dude. I just did that today. I had the serious urge for a taste test and said I'm running to the store and gas. Well I did do all that but first a pit stop. Went home with groceries like nothing happened. Fuck
 
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