Holding back - is it really worth it?

[headsup]

How much of sex is in your mind? Being annoyed at provider attitude, not so much turned on by appearance, are all boner busters. Can a lady who is a total 9 or 10 be a boner buster, and can one who is a 5 or 6 be a total turn on? I believe it is a total yes. I have not run into many who know what to say to you. I few well chosen words will make it grow an inch more sometimes.

 

[Uniquelyme]

How much of sex is in your mind? Being annoyed at provider attitude, not so much turned on by appearance, are all boner busters. Can a lady who is a total 9 or 10 be a boner buster, and can one who is a 5 or 6 be a total turn on? I believe it is a total yes. I have not run into many who know what to say to you. I few well chosen words will make it grow an inch more sometimes.

A true pro, can definitely help tremendously.

 

[The Cocksman]

"Male Ejaculation Control" is for those "students of sex," who no longer find their own orgasm as interesting as it once was. We have already experienced that countless times and became deeply disappointed with its short duration of pleasure, followed by exhaustion. The "student/experimenter" seeks a grander and more satisfying experience of sex on an energy level.

So, we learn to "hold back" and to enter into and watch the female orgasms rise and fall and enter into her joyful experience and actually feel it and become almost one with it. (nature gave her a good one, too)

Think of it like performing cunnilingus, and all the fun and joy that is, "watching and feeling her sexual emotion." But, being engaged in sexual union is all the more wonderful of an experience because you are fully engaged with locked bodies, watching and experiencing a lovely female lover. In cunnilingus you usually do not ejaculate, and in sexual union, even though there is heat and friction on your penis, you can compensate for that and override that stimulation and remain calm and aware, with practice.

"Male Ejaculation Control," probably will fail if it is approached merely by trying to control thoughts or by applying pressure to the penis to try and stop the flow of semen. It will work "probably" only on a very limited basis, using thought and pressure alone. But, it is a starting point. And, holding off for an extra minute or two beyond your comfortable capacity is a nice accomplishment to begin with. Because, this means that nature is no longer dictating to you the rules of engagement.

"Male Ejaculation Control," is accomplished when the body/mind and emotions are in a very balanced and calm state, and you have control of your body, mind and emotions. Breathing is a big part of it. Breathing controls the mind and many bodily functions. The mind and emotions are controlled by your "will."

The key to "Male Ejaculation Control" is that you have found your own "will" to be superior to your "body/mind/emotions." It takes time to cultivate and you will encounter successes and failures. Masturbation is not a good activity when learning this subject.

(Certain herbs like "yohimbe bark" and "ginkgo extracts," and many others make your penis far too engorged with blood and sensitivity to have any comfortable control over the male orgasm in my experience. Also, I cannot speak on western erectile drugs like Viagra because I have never used them)

Of course there comes a time when the beautiful "yin" sexuality of the female in her height of sexual passion could ignite your urge to trigger and uncontrollably release semen, but you must keep yourself steady in your command center and watch and control youself during her onslaught, and remain calm. If you prevail and are able to get through and absorb her orgasm without releasing semen and at the same time enjoy her orgasm with all its subtle nuances, you emerge more intense and happy, like you experienced the "eye of the storm," were exhilerated by it, and lived to tell the story.

There is a level above mere "Male Ejaculation Control" that I am not experienced enough to talk about because I have no mastery of it, and that is internal steaming of the semen not released in sex. So, if there are any adept in that science here that have some mastery in that direction, I would love to hear about it.

But, going back to simple "Male Ejaculation Control," after you enjoyed much of the female, and if you are severly backed up after exhibiting your "control," then for the sake of your system and to not create enlargement in the prostate gland, you can choose by your "will," exactly the time and place of your releasing of the semen, again by your "will" and not by mere friction and and animal procreation instinct. (this release could be at the end of each session in the beginning, and later, after having had ten or more sessions without release)

If you watch animals engage, monkeys, horses, pigs, sheep, the male ejaculates fairly quickly. Meaning, he is controlled by nature. He does not care to prolong the act and learn about his partner's orgasm or even to find ways to increase his own pleasure. He is programmed to engage and release to proliferate his species by ejaculation of his seed. We, as humans have risen above the mere capacity of animals. We, as human beings, have the ability to use our "wills" to have control over natural bodily functions.

This science is discussed in depth in the works of Mantak Chia and many others dating back many thousands of years. Unfortunately, they can only act as a guide and experimentation must be accomplished by you. So, have fun trying.

Soooooo is it worth it obi Juan kinobi?

 

[Seekingsmash7]

you may be interested in trying semen retention healthline link

achieve multiple orgasms during your session but saving that POP for last.

may be the reason i don't do amps, since i don't do well with time constraints.

 

[Flintfred]

My problem is that if I hold back… then it takes quite a long time to get to the point of popping again. Sometimes it’s worth it…. Other times after I’ve held back I wish I just would have popped the first time ….

 

[billyS]

Changing positions is imperative… otherwise it’s just kinda boring

That's a great point. That's why I'm always sceptical when a guy posts "I pounded away for Twenty minutes in Mish".

 

[steveoo1970]

That's a great point. That's why I'm always sceptical when a guy posts "I pounded away for Twenty minutes in Mish".

Im not skeptical at all when guys are pounding away in the positions they like most.

I personally think providers prefer doggie so they don’t have to be visually reminded about who’s pounding them from behind.

I myself love pounding providers in missionary. I love the visual of a voluptuous thick sweaty naked woman underneath me as I go to pound town on her. Sucking on her breasts and neck. Feeling her squirm underneath me (especially if we’re both sweaty). And then when I blow my load (with cover on) , I just stop and let her feel me throb inside her.

I like the visual of doggie. But that only last 1-5 minutes (depending how thick and jiggly her ass is). CG is cool if she’s a tall thick girl who can just put her tits right in my mouth and smother me…

But overall if I fuck a provider for 20 minutes, 15 of those minutes are in missionary or missionary Anal (if allowed).

Because that’s what gets me off.

 

[Monty_monty]

That's a great point. That's why I'm always sceptical when a guy posts "I pounded away for Twenty minutes in Mish".

In carfun situations, variety isn't possible... I know in my personal experience I've always been one to last, in my youthful days of pleasing women this was a plus, now in my older (married and have to resort to paying) days a curse when pay-for-play activities, the escorts could care less of my staying power, if anything they are not fans. I usually have to get the full hour, a half-hour is sometimes difficult to be able to pop off.

 

[billyS]

In carfun situations, variety isn't possible... I know in my personal experience I've always been one to last, in my youthful days of pleasing women this was a plus, now in my older (married and have to resort to paying) days a curse when pay-for-play activities, the escorts could care less of my staying power, if anything they are not fans. I usually have to get the full hour, a half-hour is sometimes difficult to be able to pop off.

Prostitutes are definitely not fans of guys lasting long because it is more wear and tear on their pussies.

After five minutes they usually tell me "poppy, you almost done"?

 

[steveoo1970]

In carfun situations, variety isn't possible... I know in my personal experience I've always been one to last, in my youthful days of pleasing women this was a plus, now in my older (married and have to resort to paying) days a curse when pay-for-play activities, the escorts could care less of my staying power, if anything they are not fans. I usually have to get the full hour, a half-hour is sometimes difficult to be able to pop off.

In car situations, I want to be done fast. The anxiety of someone passing by is always in the back of my mind. I usually on opt for head . Trying to accomplish full service in a Hyundai with untinted window is a near impossibility. I am due for a new car , might go bigger with a mini van. I would love a full size conversion van, but the wife would def be suspicious.

Prostitutes are definitely not fans of guys lasting long because it is more wear and tear on their pussies.

After five minutes they usually tell me "poppy, you almost done"?

Knowing that providers are gonna try to drain me ASAP, I make sure I’ve released a few times and negotiate a 2 pop meeting .

They can throw that ass back as hard as they want , I’ve got plenty of staying power. If they start to get annoying, I may rush things along a little bit. But it’s almost always on my terms. Because I paid for the time.

 

[kmt1972]

Im not skeptical at all when guys are pounding away in the positions they like most.

I personally think providers prefer doggie so they don’t have to be visually reminded about who’s pounding them from behind.

I myself love pounding providers in missionary. I love the visual of a voluptuous thick sweaty naked woman underneath me as I go to pound town on her. Sucking on her breasts and neck. Feeling her squirm underneath me (especially if we’re both sweaty). And then when I blow my load (with cover on) , I just stop and let her feel me throb inside her.

I like the visual of doggie. But that only last 1-5 minutes (depending how thick and jiggly her ass is). CG is cool if she’s a tall thick girl who can just put her tits right in my mouth and smother me…

But overall if I fuck a provider for 20 minutes, 15 of those minutes are in missionary or missionary Anal (if allowed).

Because that’s what gets me off.

Somehow I have problems popping missionary unless it is with her legs closed to make her pussy smaller. There was a provider I saw in Tokyo (she is actually German) who was able to control her pussy to grab and release my cock that I actually popped during missionary without her legs being close. Now I think about it the same thing also took place in Frankfurt with a very athletic German provider. Maybe this is a German thing.

The fastest way for me to pop is doggie or prone bone but I enjoy missionary with her legs closed the most because somehow in that position I do not even feel the wrapper anymore and it almost feels like BBFS. CG for me is hit and miss. Some providers are very good at it and can get me close to popping within 2-3 minutes. Others it is such a turnoff that the hardon might start to wane. Historically most of my sessions are 2 pops with a CIM for round one followed by another long round of BBBJ and a 5 minute session of doggie or prone bone followed by release. If somehow I can only pop once or I have a lot of time for the second pop and the provider does not want to do a long BBBJ I usually do missionary with her legs open. Just like you I get a visual high and also get to DFK her while I slowly fuck her with almost no risk of me popping for a while. The provider has to provide something of value for the entire time. Either she can do a long BBBJ before I pop quickly or she has to look at me in the eyes or DFK me while I fuck her for 15 minutes. She cannot just take the money and expect to get me to pop right away and then do nothing to ear her money.

 

[nate1]

last time i held back was sooo worth it with our persian sam we have all shared.
i was fucking her in the car (Acura mdx so good space in the back) and when im starting to cum in her pussy i tried to hold back as much semen as possible and she knew it, she said oh whats wrong why are you holding back? i told her i didnt want to cum yet and wanted to enjoy that pussy but couldnt hold any longer, she told me dont worry, lets go again but dont hold back when you cum in my pussy.
needless to say it was so much fun the second time