Unfortunately, it’s the people that love addicts that get hurt the most. Being kind is not the same as enabling though. To be supportive, take a phone call, or just listen doesn’t mean you’re enabling them…
The key is knowing the difference between enabling and helping… you’re the sober one in the situation therefor it just should be easier to decipher.
You never give an addict money. You never let their emotions toy with yours. And you never “bail them out” of ANY situation. You have to be the strong one. Like you said, they have to WANT to be clean. ADDICTS THAT WANT HELP, LACK EXCUSES!
Addicts that want to manipulate you will have a list of excuses and explanations for everything… they are going to rehab next week and need your “help” today, they need grocery money for their kids, their boyfriends always beat them up and they need money to escape, them robbing you was totally not their fault because it was beyond their control
To all of you that prey on the “junkies” in this business… especially the guys that ensure they document their escapades and brag about how they took advantage of the girl and the situation …
Guys usually get busted or have problems for 2 MAIN reasons… they are going to “those” girls and “those” places OR they are hunting for a deal and took the TGTBT deal…You are judged by the company you keep so when the cops kick the door in, you’re cheap thrill just became a $5000 - $10000 attorney bill… or when their man emerges from the bathroom or comes in right before you’re done and robs you…
You got exactly what you paid for… and deserve!!