That's what I've been telling myself for years. Unfortunately, mass media and psychology come into play.
I had a very straightforward latina girlfriend say that sentiment was totally true, but also said you can't deny that a long schlong, even of average girth, had an effect from "looking" not "feeling."
Needless to say, I broke up with that spicy little whore because she didn't stroke my fragile ego enough.
... And then she came back and we got married. Since then, she's been careful to complement my other skills. But, she's still no liar. She won't tell me the mere sight of my average pecker makes her quiver (unless I tell her that the sight of her perky c-cups makes me think she should consider some bolt-on DDs).
"Big Dick Energy" (BDE) is now a popular term that carries some nonsensical meaning. When these little gen z bitches say BDE, they aren't talking about girth. And, the connotation is that they can "feel" that energy without seeing it. Bullshit. What they're feeling is confidence, because men are taught to be proud of length and ashamed of anything else.
Kim K (hot) fucked Pete D (anemic and weaselly) because she "heard" that he had a 10er.
It's not logical. It's flat out nonsense. But, a picture, or a mental image) tells 1000 words. How many words does "feeling" girth tell?
These days, we're accustomed to instant stimulation by thought, not something that builds over time by feel. You have to reach the mind before you can fully stimulate the rest. Or, you have to rewire their minds over time.
But, reconsidering after all that diatribe, there is no one more experienced in secual truth than a professional provider.