What makes someone an ATF rather than just a flavor of the day?

#1
There are plenty of sites with countless providers to keep you busy for a lifetime.
“Variety IS the spice of life”.
Just read about some of the guys on here who have been mongering for 40 years.
And there are men who limit there activities to only one provider because for them, she’s different.
So what is it that makes one provider and the relationship you have stand out among all others as an ATF?
 
#4
For me, it comes down to how memorable the experiences were. Looking back on the past 35 years, there were two ladies in particular that I would love to relive some of the encounters. One, an amp girl was a 10 year relationship, the other a higher profile escort who I saw for a few years at her home.
 
#6
The ones I can actually remember (see other thread about blocking out providers once load is dropped) provides something special or different that I hadn’t had before, or that I craved. Most of them were eclectic and gave more to the experience than just a robotic and systematic process. For example, when I was living down south and had limited funds due to unemployment, I found an AMP like spa but it was American women. This one woman noticed i loved when she washed my ass and got into it. We talked and she learned what I was going through and was very empathetic. She told me to come back and she’d figure out how we can both benefit. On my next visit, she also brought some toys she thought I’d enjoy since I liked the ass play. I ended up seeing her 3-4 times, each time was better than the last. She made me feel that she was into the experience as much as I was. So I’ll always remember her fondly. I have others.
Yumi from Darae 54 back circa 2002-2007. I’d see her every other week and eventually we had BBBJ and BBFS. We had a real connection and bond. Never had FS with anyone else at that spa, and I’ve frequented it for almost 20 years now.
Also, Camille and Gia in Westchester. The two of them would never charge me full price and always gave me all input access. Totally wild threesome with them. They treated me like a King.
Bottom line, my ATFs made me feel like I was the greatest customer they’d ever had. Because frankly, we are all missing something and when the provider can fill that void in that moment, they become memorable.
 
#7
Some women are just mechanical about things. They just want you to bust a nut and get you moving along as soon as possible. Others spend half their time watching the clock. Then you have the ones that will chat a little, that are playful, that don't object if you go a little over your time. They go the extra mile and are appreciated for it. Have only had one ATF - and she knocked my socks off every time I saw her
 
#10
It has to start with mind blowing sexual experiences. The ATF would fulfill a particular face or body type one may find extra attractive. But what separates an ATF from the pack is the connection formed through multiple encounters. This connection turns into a relationship over time. The generosity, intelligence, thoughtfulness were a few attributes that my ATF possessed.
 
#11
You grope her with her clothes on. You can just be yourself with her. You could easily spend the night together. She has qualities that you don't have but you admire. She gets angry at you and you listen. You yell back and she listens. She shuts off her phone when she is with you.

In the middle of it all you burst out and say "I love you." She knows you mean it but she calls you a liar. You just like her. She likes you. You go way over the time limit. After it all, she wants to take a shower with you. She has all the time in the world for you. She lathers you with a smile in the shower and tests the water on herself to make sure she doesn't burn you. She feeds you something. She forces you to stay for a free massage. She doesn't want you to leave.

She wants to go to a restaurant with you. She picks out a cheap place. She finds a way to pay for some of the meal or to leave the tip. After many goodbye's, she always hugs you one more time. She walks you to the door and then to the elevator. She won't leave until the door closes.

She is not as young and good looking as the others but she is 100% more fulfilling. She shoves you or smacks you and calls you "stupid" when she feels that you are being inauthentic. She giggles a lot when you look at her. Doesn't expect a tip and when you give her the regular very reasonable rate, she thanks you with a smile. You treat each other fairly. After your encounter, you are good for a long time and go back to work and the mundane world with a new perspective and a smile.
 
#13
You grope her with her clothes on. You can just be yourself with her. You could easily spend the night together. She has qualities that you don't have but you admire. She gets angry at you and you listen. You yell back and she listens. She shuts off her phone when she is with you.

In the middle of it all you burst out and say "I love you." She knows you mean it but she calls you a liar. You just like her. She likes you. You go way over the time limit. After it all, she wants to take a shower with you. She has all the time in the world for you. She lathers you with a smile in the shower and tests the water on herself to make sure she doesn't burn you. She feeds you something. She forces you to stay for a free massage. She doesn't want you to leave.

She wants to go to a restaurant with you. She picks out a cheap place. She finds a way to pay for some of the meal or to leave the tip. After many goodbye's, she always hugs you one more time. She walks you to the door and then to the elevator. She won't leave until the door closes.

She is not as young and good looking as the others but she is 100% more fulfilling. She shoves you or smacks you and calls you "stupid" when she feels that you are being inauthentic. She giggles a lot when you look at her. Doesn't expect a tip and when you give her the regular very reasonable rate, she thanks you with a smile. You treat each other fairly. After your encounter, you are good for a long time and go back to work and the mundane world with a new perspective and a smile.
Sounds like Sophia Belle
 
#15
Thank you for moving my reply to Musings by Mugi but without showing what it is responding to, it is missing the entire context. To me, it is pertinent and is in response to a statement and it does add value to a monger seeking to enjoy his pleasures entirely.
 
#17
I have a few ATFs can't narrow it to one.

The thing they all have in common is that a connection grew even though neither of us intended for a connection to grow.

I can go into where I keep my contact numbers and get three dozen A plus BBJs. Easy. But how many of them call me on my birthday, or exchange Xmas gifts, or silly little thoughtful stuff like that. That's what makes an ATF to me.
 
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